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  • 05-11-2012 11:11pm
    #1
    999 Problems
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2 ✭


    I've been with my gf just over 3 years. After we both finished college in May, we went on holidays abroad together with the intention of it being the first time we had sex together. I'd waited patiently over the years and was happy enough with it. Unfortunately, it turned out to be a disaster on holidays as we tried a few times to no avail.

    Ever since, I've found it hard to have the desire to have sexual contact again with her and we are on the verge of break up now. I still care about her and she still wants to be with me but I can't help but feel things have gradually turned into more of a friendship rather than a relationship.

    Just don't know whether to start afresh and break up and face up to the probable realities of the situation.


Comments

  • #2
    AgentOraiste
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 45 ✭AgentOraiste


    What was the problem that made it a disaster?


  • #3
    999 Problems
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2 ✭999 Problems


    AgentOraiste wrote: »
    What was the problem that made it a disaster?

    We tried numerous times to have sex on holidays and it was just a failure each time...it has pretty much destroyed my desire to have sexual contact with her anymore.


  • #4
    AgentOraiste
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 45 ✭AgentOraiste


    999 Problems wrote: »
    We tried numerous times to have sex on holidays and it was just a failure each time...it has pretty much destroyed my desire to have sexual contact with her anymore.

    Erection, wasnt sure how? what was it? once you establish that you can then see a doctor about it


  • #5
    ManOfMystery
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,394 ✭✭✭ManOfMystery


    Was it a physical problem, or a mental one? Physical problems can be dealt with straightforward enough, and you can see a doctor if it's something you think needs addressed medically. However if it was a mental block - i.e. one or both of you couldn't commit to the act - then that may be a bigger hurdle, especially considering you're together 3yrs and by that stage most people will be comfortable enough and secure enough in the relationship to really want to be intimate with their partner.


  • #6
    curlzy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,708 ✭✭✭curlzy


    You're gonna have to be more forthcoming with the details. What was the problem? Erection? Was it too painful for her? Was she too tight? You're anonymous here, so don't be embarassed. If you tell us what happened we'll be able to advise you better.


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