Friend issue

LegacyUser

Hi

I would like to advice on something, I’ve an issue with a friend who doesn’t listen what others say, what ever advice he is given he will say I’m not listening to that no all. To cut long story short, my mate (call him Ian) anyway we got into bit of business, nothing major just something we thought we’d try out.

Anyway Ian and I done well for few months and we had few guys helping us out and they got paid all depending on how much we got in that night, mind you it wasn’t much but people guys and girls were happy to have few quid, some equipment we needed was in need of replacement he refused to listen to people, when people had issues with him over some things he would moan about them behind their backs to me what ever advice he's given he doesn't listen


After few months had passed buy the company folded up and one of the guys who worked with us set up something different but alone the same line as us, I didn’t have a problem etc.. Ian started to turn around to say hope it fails and I want them all to fail and even warned me not to talk to them or hang around them he even went as far to say delete them off my Facebook. I didn’t I ended up deleting him, and blocking him


I’ve never seen anyone so bitter about the whole thing, some of the guys he hangs out tell Ian I was talking to this and that and when Ian tells me why I would say mind your own business, he’s also say to me that anyone who talks to anyone is sad,

We’d been out for a drink one night and when I met him he was drunk and some junkie girl asked for change I said sorry don’t have any and Ian told her to **** off you B*tch she started to shout for her boyfriend to come over I just told him to fecking run anyway he got more drunk and started to shout loud

Would I be cruel to tell him to feck off as I don’t like when he’s like that every time I see him I feel down after it

cafecolour

Stop spending time with him if he brings you down every time you see him.

If this is a personality change after the business failure, suggest he go to a therapist about it, since he seems to be stuck on it. Then let him work it out on his own.

edellc

I think you know the answer to your own question OP

To be mean and nasty is not a good characteristic to have and this person in your life seems to have both.

A few friends which are golden nuggets are for life, however most friends are only in your life for a certain period of time or certain a certain chapter in your life, and one of you will grow out of the other, then the relationship will falter and eventually cease to be....sometimes your paths will cross again in life sometimes they wont, but you cherish what you had and learn from where it went wrong and most importantly you move on. Not all by some relationships have a habit of becoming toxic which is good for nobody and we all have the right to say what is acceptable to us and what is not.

This friend of yours has become toxic if you think this is acceptable then fine live with it, if not then do something about it. You and you alone are in control of your life.

djimi

Ian sounds like an asshole. Why on earth would you want to be friends with an asshole...?

LegacyUser

Hi OP here, Thanks for the comments, I've sent him an e-mail telling him not to bother contacting me and delete my numbe etc..