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How to Break Up with College GF?

  • 05-11-2012 3:47am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,

    I have just finished my 10th week in college as a first year..

    My story starts way back.. Me and my GF both decided that we wouldnt be together until college as we lived too far apart (both knew we would be attending the same college).. We were very serious about this, and serious about each other..

    Now, we are 2 months in, and Im getting cold feet.. I dont think that college is the right place for this relationship, I feel like I want to be single throughout my college years.. But at the same time, I do love her, and admittedly Ive never been as comfortable etc with another girl ever the same way I am with her.. So I often wonder am I making a mistake.. And I do really care about her, as you can see from me going to this length to try and make things easier for her..

    I guess the problem is that I dont know how to finish this.. She is totally and completly into this relationship and would be devestated if I finished things with her.. I know she is happier now than she has ever been.. And I am about to ruin all that :( we waited almost 18 months for this, and now I am about to throw it all away, though I feel like I need to and that it wouldnt be fair to continue this relationship when I feel like this..

    I dont know what to say.. I dont know what to do.. Another aspect of this is that we would still probably see each other often enough if we werent together (it couldnt be avoided)..

    any advice is welcome, thanks :)

    oh and by the way.. I know some people will look at this and think 'oh stupid 18 year olds in college' blah blah blah.. but I hope ye can avoid that point of view as this is very serious and very important to me..

    Thanks guys!


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  • #2
    curlzy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,708 ✭✭✭curlzy


    At the end of the day you want to be free and single. I'm sure you don't want to hurt her but at the end of the day if you really loved her you'd want to be with her. That's what being in love is; serious devotion. You don't have that. I'm sure you really really like her but you're not in love.

    You've messed her around, but in fairness you didn't know you'd feel like this, but now you do know. The only way to be fair now, is to finish it with her once and for all and let her be free and single just like you. Id say, considering how fickle you are, you'll end up cheating if you stay together, so avoid that, just finish it now.

    There's no cheat code for breaking up with someone, you simpley have to man up, grow a pair, sit her down and tell her the truth; that you thought you wanted to be with her in college but you want to be single. Then cut contact for a while, just don't be a jerk in college and start messing with her head, be respectful and civil and keep your distance until she's ready to be friends, if she ever is.

    Don't stress too much, you'll both get over it.


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