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Meeting someone from online?

  • 30-10-2012 6:13pm
    #1
    AnFearDorcha
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10 ✭


    I was wondering has anyone here ever met up with someone they got in contact with online for NSA sex?

    I got chatting to a guy on gaire and I'm considering doing it. Never have before but, as ye know yerselves, it can be hard to meet people*.

    I was just wondering if anyone here had done it? Met up with someone they didn't know like that. Was is worth it? Am I a complete idiot for considering the idea etc?

    Any thoughts/advice/opinions welcome.

    Thanks guys.


    *absolutely no pun intended, by the way :p


Comments

  • #2
    Shakti
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,153 ✭✭✭Shakti


    Would you not a consider maybe a coffee in a public place first?


  • #3
    L1011
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 71,143 ✭✭✭✭L1011


    Shakti wrote: »
    Would you not a consider maybe a coffee in a public place first?

    That's generally not what someone looking for "NSA" wants.


  • #4
    1ZRed
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,293 ✭✭✭1ZRed


    Yeah, and loads of guys regularly meet up for nsa sex.

    Was it worth it? Well you get off and have sex don't you.


  • #5
    Annasopra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,156 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    1ZRed wrote: »
    Yeah, and loads of guys regularly meet up for nsa sex.

    Was it worth it? Well you get off and have sex don't you.
    If that's what you are into.

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



  • #6
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Generally the handful I've met from online I'd have put through the conversational paces. If they're not willing to entertain a bit of a conversation online then the chances are you'll be a long time waiting for respect in the bedroom.

    I've been pretty lucky with the few I have met that they are open to chatting beforehand because I was / still would be pretty nervous in the NSA meet up situation. That said I've probably had way more conversation with grindr/gaydar guys I've had sex with than ones I've had sex with after a drunken haze of a night out.

    I'm not a fan of NSA, but I've given it a try and can understand the appeal to people with a high sex drive, but I can do without, I also feel there's a higher STI exposure risk if the person you're sleeping with makes a habit of having random sex and try to avoid that.


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  • #7
    Shakti
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,153 ✭✭✭Shakti


    MYOB wrote: »
    That's generally not what someone looking for "NSA" wants.

    oh right, guess that I should've known that


  • #8
    1ZRed
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,293 ✭✭✭1ZRed


    mango salsa wrote: »
    If that's what you are into.

    That's what he wants.


  • #9
    bikeman1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,380 ✭✭✭bikeman1


    An Fear Dorcha (Good name!),

    There is nothing wrong with it, as long as you are in control. I did it once before (from an online point of view). Did the business and left, we both got what we wanted out of it, which was a ride, nothing more or less.

    I don't see that as the way to live, far better finding someone who you can fall in love with. But as a means to an end, NSA online hookups are ok. Just don't make it your life.

    I also preferred to meet guys in a club/bar, rather than online.


  • #10
    floggg
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,824 ✭✭✭floggg


    In reality it's not all that much different from a drunken one night stand. Which most people have had.

    Obviously you need to have your wits about you, use protection and don't do anything risky or unsafe. You take a risk going off with a stranger, whether you might online or not.

    You should try and chat to them a bit though first to try and get a sense of what they are like. If they ain't willing to chat a bit, then they probably aren't going to be all that considerate or sound when you meet them.

    And obviously if the are happy to hook up with people without even getting to know their name, you gotta think about their standards and how many others they might have been with and what they might have picked up.

    That said there are plenty of guys on grindr etc who like to chat a bit first and get to know each other, maybe even have a drink, before having some fun.


  • #11
    Annasopra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,156 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    1ZRed wrote: »
    That's what he wants.

    I don't know what the OP wants. My sense is that he doesn't actually know what he wants. I don't think your presumption is that clearcut.

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



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  • #12
    coolperson05
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 280 ✭✭coolperson05


    I agree with other posters. If you both know what ye want, there's no real harm once it's safe, etc. Chat for a bit...even if it is centered around NSA, and at least you have an idea what they're like. I know friends that met up for NSA and it developed into something more serious so it's not all bad. Being online the main thing is to meet in a public place and take it from there.


  • #13
    Davyhal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 455 ✭✭Davyhal


    Used to do it when I was younger, and can't say I judge people that still do it. I just kind of grew out of it though. Kind of past the one night stand thing (i've caught the relationship bug I must say), but nothing really wrong with it as long as ye are both single and up for it... If you are on the hunt for a bf though, I would not put it as a good way to meet someone... Anyone I ever met that way immediately went into the friendzone, and whilst I used to do it when I first started coming to terms with my sexuality, hypocritically, I would not view someone who still does it as BF material...


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