Where are YOU going in life?

Rigol

Some people seem to have it all planned out. Jobs, money, partners, kids, pension. All to a carefully planned 10 point plan with illustrations and bar charts.

Other people are found haphazardly ambling rambling round Aldi (sometimes in pajamas) at 7pm on a Sunday.

Have you planned your long term future?

Me? Im goin to the corner liquor sto to get my drink on.

refusetolose

im on a road to nowhere

smash

I sat down to make a bar chart but ended up looking at porn again. I'll get around to the bar chart at a later date!

A Primal Nut

Cavan

krudler

I stopped with the plans and deadlines, its gets counterproductive after a while and rarely falls into place like you imagine. this whole married by blah blah age, kid by this age stuff isnt for me.

cgpg5

Take it as it comes really. That way you won't end up too disappointed :P

Standard Toaster

I'm pretty sure there's a lot more to life than being really, really, ridiculously good looking. And I plan on finding out what that is.

Ellis Dee

I take life one day at a time, because no one ever knows from one second to the next where they will be going.:)

A friend told me about a huge billboard he once saw outside a church and beside a bus stop in Oxford.

The billboard read: "Where will you be spending eternity?"

Someone had written this on it with a felt pen: "Here most likely, waiting for a fcuking bus.":D:D

RikkFlair

Right now I'm on the couch and I ain't for moving

1ZRed

Finish my education, secure a good supporting job, find a parter, no kids, no pension, and that's about it. No set plans or dates for all of that.

There's no point planing out your whole life step by step. I doubt it'd ever work and it would only build disappointment, there's no fun in that. Just take it as it comes and enjoy yourself, and stay happy and content for as much as your life as possible. That's what I think anyway.

MrStuffins

Ellis Dee wrote: »

I take life one day at a time, because no one ever knows from one second to the next where they will be going.:)

What if you make a doctors appointment for 2 days from now?

MadMardegan

Well my immediate goal is to save enough money to go to states so I can study to become a paramedic.
After that I'll look at getting work over there. Don't know what'll happen after that.

Professey Chin

Right now. The kitchen. Im hungry

juan.kerr

Never planned much but I have been fortunate to be able to take advantage of the opportunities that have presented themselves.

Stinicker

I think we are all hurtling head first towards death at some unbeknownst time in the future.

af_thefragile

Well one could say I'm just about starting my journey in life.
I'm in my final college year, so next year is just a big unknown full of uncertainty and possibilities for me.
No clue right now where I'll be next year after I graduate. Will I have a job, where will I get a job? I probably might have to move to another country too. Its all very unknown right now.

At this point I would probably rather be living with the certainty of having a house, job and family even if its a dead end job, rather than be faced with a blank future. But then I guess there are many who are sick of their routine lives and rather be given the opportunity to have a blank future full of unknown possibilities instead... Its all relative...

Strawberry Fields

I'm going back to the future

phasers

finish college, get a job doing... something, get my own place.

I just want a job where I can sit down and don't have to sell things.

juan.kerr

godeas16 wrote: »

I'm going back to the future

So you've been there before?

Strawberry Fields

Absolutely I was there a couple of years ago.

midlandsmissus

To be happy. I suffer with depression , and it is my goal. To be happy and have peace of mind.

whatdoicare

I know a girl who has that 10 point, bar chart, married by this age and babies by this age ****e going on.
She's making it all happen, right on schedule but I have to say, she is the unhappiest person I know!
She never smiles, walks around looking at the floor and is generally miserable to be around. I can't stand meeting her as it's gotten pretty uncomfortable to be listening to her whinge all the time.
She even turns happy events into a whinge. I'm not even sure she likes her husband, she told me she hates when he touches her in public and she never goes anywhere with him. She's constantly giving out about him.

I work in a general half plan kind of way, I get ideas and plans on the hop depending on what's happening at the time. Life is pretty good as far as I'm concerned. I'm married and have all the trappings, I never planned any of it, just took the opportunity as it arrived.

CLOWN COLLEGE

djk1000

Have a plan for the first time in my life! Went back to college, have a well paid but boring job lined up.

Going to spend the next few years living on as small a part of my salary as possible, save/invest the rest. When I hit my target I'm going to travel until the money runs out, I should get 4-5 years out of my savings.

Tom_Cruise

I'm pretty sure i wont last this past Xmas , life hasn't gone well for m the past year or so.

Remmy

I hope someday to point at a business or businesses and be able to say "I built that". Pretty vague and open ended but there ya go.

Rigol

Remmy wrote: »

I hope someday to point at a business or businesses and be able to say "I built that". Pretty vague and open ended but there ya go.

Well if a mis-spent life blankly staring at shallow hollywood sht has taught me anything its that if you build it blah blah blah

shruikan2553

Finish college, work awhile, maybe do a masters or PHD when I've saved some money and then probably go to America. Thankfully people in my course tend to get jobs easy and can work anywhere. Where I go depends on who gives me the best offer.

BBDBB

Im going to the kitchen to put the kettle on for a cup of coffee

updates as they happen

thunderdog

af_thefragile wrote: »

Well one could say I'm just about starting my journey in life.
I'm in my final college year, so next year is just a big unknown full of uncertainty and possibilities for me.

Some say uncertainty and possibilties, others might call it the dole

steddyeddy

Im learning a new langauge. I want to research genetic diseases and hopefully make a real impact on peoples lives.

juan.kerr

godeas16 wrote: »

Absolutely I was there a couple of years ago.

I don't suppose you brought a Grays Sports Almanac back that I could borrow?

phasers

BBDBB wrote: »

Im going to the kitchen to put the kettle on for a cup of coffee

updates as they happen

Was there water in the kettle? Did you get the coffee:water ratio right???????

Don't leave us hanging!

smurgen

in the short term i'm moving to London with work from Geneva in the new year, after that who knows!The idea of having my next 10 years planned out for me would freak me out.

af_thefragile

whatdoicare wrote: »

I know a girl who has that 10 point, bar chart, married by this age and babies by this age ****e going on.
She's making it all happen, right on schedule but I have to say, she is the unhappiest person I know!
She never smiles, walks around looking at the floor and is generally miserable to be around. I can't stand meeting her as it's gotten pretty uncomfortable to be listening to her whinge all the time.
She even turns happy events into a whinge. I'm not even sure she likes her husband, she told me she hates when he touches her in public and she never goes anywhere with him. She's constantly giving out about him.

I work in a general half plan kind of way, I get ideas and plans on the hop depending on what's happening at the time. Life is pretty good as far as I'm concerned. I'm married and have all the trappings, I never planned any of it, just took the opportunity as it arrived.

Its one of the paradoxes of life. The more you plan out your life and worry about the future, the more worries life will give you to worry about.

I saw a video recently on this very interesting study they did where they found out that people who best when they are given the freedom to do whatever they want without any worries. Here's the video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u6XAPnuFjJc

The thing is I've noticed this a lot in my college. As we're approaching the end of our college years, I've started to see these interesting trends. There are two types of students in my class. There are ones who are very relaxed in this final year and aren't too worried about what they'll be doing once they graduate. Then there are the other group who are the one's who're constantly worried about what they're going to be doing next year after they graduate and and constantly working out where they're gonna apply, planning what all they need to do and such.

What I've noticed is the one's who are the laid back students end up doing better than the students who are worried about the future. So many of the students who used to get 1st class honours all along the previous years have suddenly started to do bad because they're stressing themselves out too much planning about the future while many students who just used to be average students are now doing really good because they're just not stressed about anything and are happier and better focused on studying for the final year stuff.

Strawberry Fields

juan.kerr wrote: »

I don't suppose you brought a Grays Sports Almanac back that I could borrow?

No all I got was this lousy t-shirt

af_thefragile

thunderdog wrote: »

Some say uncertainty and possibilties, others might call it the dole

There's no uncertainty about the dole. Every month you get your dole money and go through your routines till the next giro and repeat.

Uncertainty is when you have absolutely no idea what's going to happen in the future. For me I have 2-3 different options and there's also the chance that none of the options may work out and I may end up in a really bad place. Its gonna take a lot of work and luck for either of those options to work out and only one of the option allows me to stay in Ireland and its not an option I can count on. The other options require me to move to other new countries I've never been to before. So its all very unclear where I'll be next year after I graduate.

MaroonAndGreen

have no plan for life, but things are going ok so far, doing my first choice college course, I just need a job now :P Im not worried about whats going to happen or not happen in say 5 or 10 years time, have to live in the present

whatdoicare

af_thefragile wrote: »

Its one of the paradoxes of life. The more you plan out your life and worry about the future, the more worries life will give you to worry about.

I saw a video recently on this very interesting study they did where they found out that people who best when they are given the freedom to do whatever they want without any worries. Here's the video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u6XAPnuFjJc

The thing is I've noticed this a lot in my college. As we're approaching the end of our college years, I've started to see these interesting trends. There are two types of students in my class. There are ones who are very relaxed in this final year and aren't too worried about what they'll be doing once they graduate. Then there are the other group who are the one's who're constantly worried about what they're going to be doing next year after they graduate and and constantly working out where they're gonna apply, planning what all they need to do and such.

What I've noticed is the one's who are the laid back students end up doing better than the students who are worried about the future. So many of the students who used to get 1st class honours all along the previous years have suddenly started to do bad because they're stressing themselves out too much planning about the future while many students who just used to be average students are now doing really good because they're just not stressed about anything and are happier and better focused on studying for the final year stuff.

Really interesting video, it totally goes against all we assume in life.

I was like that in school, I was chillaxed and did my few days study beforehand ending in pretty good results while friends I had who were much smarter and usually did much better than me often did worse and panicked on the day.

I assume my friend is like this - she panicked and stressed her way into marriage, house buying and kids and on the outside she should be happy but obviously she's not- whereas I took a relaxed approach and am much happier. It's a weird concept.

Jaded Jester

This morning I woke up on a stinking mattress in a friend's leaking, moss laden boxroom, my waistcoat and shirt dappled with cherry red spots of blood, my strange hands caked in orange vomit, my eyelids as rough as sandpaper with each slow blink which, for at least a moment, hid the piercing examination that a sharp slant of Autumn light made of my dreamlike, distant memories from the night that had passed.

I'm on the long, dizzying, winding and dark road to absolutely nowhere.

steddyeddy

Tom_Cruise wrote: »

I'm pretty sure i wont last this past Xmas , life hasn't gone well for m the past year or so.

Look to the horizon man; things improve. Take it from someone who escaped hell on earth and rebuilt his life. Expect good things and they'll come.

wendell borton

Veering from the middle of the road to the ditch.

smurgen

Tom_Cruise wrote: »

I'm pretty sure i wont last this past Xmas , life hasn't gone well for m the past year or so.

I've had sentiments like this many times in my life. Best to put the blinkers on a just power through with idea that things will get better,no matter how naive that idea of hope may be.

BBDBB

phasers wrote: »

Was there water in the kettle? Did you get the coffee:water ratio right???????

Don't leave us hanging!

no, so I filled it.....f*ck the environment, I want to pander to the corporate energy machine

a spoon of freeze dried instant into the mug, drop in the sweetener and a splash of milk


and now the waiting begins for the water to boil......................

old hippy

I'm going to hell with the lid off

delthedriver

midlandsmissus wrote: »

To be happy. I suffer with depression , and it is my goal. To be happy and have peace of mind.

Depression is a terrible illness. Be kind to yourself. Try a little exercise each day and take care of your nutrition. Make sure you get adequate sleep. Realise your limitations on a bad day, listen to some relaxing music, take a nice long soak in a warm bath, leave the pain drain from your body.Take one day at a time, life will get better and you will get peace of mind. Learn to live in the Now.Enjoy what may be happening around you each day.

Best Wishes

delthedriver

Jaded Jester wrote: »

This morning I woke up on a stinking mattress in a friend's leaking, moss laden boxroom, my waistcoat and shirt dappled with cherry red spots of blood, my strange hands caked in orange vomit, my eyelids as rough as sandpaper with each slow blink which, for at least a moment, hid the piercing examination that a sharp slant of Autumn light made of my dreamlike, distant memories from the night that had passed.

I'm on the long, dizzying, winding and dark road to absolutely nowhere.

This is extremely alarming. Surely there is someone you can turn to for help?

OneArt

I want to go back to college so I can get a better paying job and a bigger apartment so I can get a cat and have fancy dinner parties.

And have money for cake. Lots of cake.

Good God I love cake.

PandaX9

Fridge, meaningless relationship, "useful" degree, probably an even more useful Masters degree, more meaningless relationships, rediscover love of fridge, untimely death.

delthedriver

Tom_Cruise wrote: »

I'm pretty sure i wont last this past Xmas , life hasn't gone well for m the past year or so.

Dear Tom,

Please get advice and help from somewhere. I would suggest talking to your GP or Samaritans if you would prefer to talk to a stranger. Please do not let anything get you down. Think of your family and loved ones.

Please be kind to yourself, best wishes

Sofaspud

Finish my degree in another year and a half, then move back to Cork to my girlfriend where my degree will most likely be no use whatsoever other than for nixers and spare time stuff.

I take life as it comes generally.