Need some advice

JillyQ

Just looking for a bit of advice here about something i am being accused of doing.

A bit of backround, i was out last weekend with a friend of mine, she had my phone and was taking pictures when my other friend texted me she replied to his texts, i didnt know she was doing it. My friend is now saying that it was me and that i am lying, how do i recitify this situation. I have apologised over and over for being so stupid to him.

I know it sounds childish but this has really upset me. I dont like being accused in the wrong.

Any advice on how to sort this thing out? I really do want to get this sorted as i do geniuely care an awful lot about this person.

Thanks in advance.

Esoteric_

Tell him the truth, if he doesn't believe you then that's his problem, not yours.

As for her, tell her to grow up, stop acting like a 12 year old, and don't let her near your belongings again!

JillyQ

I have told the truth all along. I know he is stubborn but there is a difference between being stubborn and totally pigheaded. As for her im furious at her at the moment.

Esoteric_

JillyQ wrote: »

I have told the truth all along. I know he is stubborn but there is a difference between being stubborn and totally pigheaded. As for her im furious at her at the moment.

If he doesn't believe you, that's not being stubborn, that's being a pretty shítty friend.

JillyQ

Thats actually true thanks for that :)

dixiefly

It is not an ideal solution but I think you should get the idiot that sent the texts to contact him and tell the truth. If she doesn't then I would be seriously tell her in no uncertain terms that she should stay away from your possessions in future.

desbrook

dixiefly wrote: »

It is not an ideal solution but I think you should get the idiot that sent the texts to contact him and tell the truth. If she doesn't then I would be seriously tell her in no uncertain terms that she should stay away from your possessions in future.

There is a danger that the contact from the idiot friend will look like a set up .... it could smack of desparation! Best to fall out with the idiot and let that be known to him ... if he doesnt cop on after a few days he was a sh***ty friend as another poster said.

deisemum

LyndaMcL wrote: »

If he doesn't believe you, that's not being stubborn, that's being a pretty shítty friend.

I second this and it looks like he's manipulating the situation and sounds like he's happy enough to play the martyr and have you on the backfoot apologising over and over.

I also think if you keep on defending yourself it will just look like "the lady doth protests too much, methinks"

You've apologised enough though I don't think you've anything to apologise for as you didn't reply to the text messages and it's his choice whether he wants to believe you or not so I think it's time to tell him that you're no longer going to apologise and that if he was a true friend he should know you better.

JillyQ

dixiefly wrote: »

It is not an ideal solution but I think you should get the idiot that sent the texts to contact him and tell the truth. If she doesn't then I would be seriously tell her in no uncertain terms that she should stay away from your possessions in future.

I have no intention of apologising to him again, I have apologised four times already, he is not getting another one. My friend that did it has said she will call him if i want and tell him it was her. I dont think it should have to go that far. @ deisemum i think you are right and he is trying to back foot me.

Ellsbells

Why would you stay friends with either of them??? A good friènd wouldn't type that stuff either.

dixiefly

JillyQ wrote: »

I have no intention of apologising to him again, I have apologised four times already, he is not getting another one. My friend that did it has said she will call him if i want and tell him it was her. I dont think it should have to go that far. @ deisemum i think you are right and he is trying to back foot me.

You really only should have had to apologise once. After that your "friend" that sent the texts could have confirmed your story. Perhaps it could have looked like a setup but since she would have been telling the truth it would have come across as that.
After that I would agree that any more apologies would not be appropriate.

JillyQ

its so not appropriate to apologise again. I am the sort of person that accepts an apology from someone once and moves on, unless i have pretty damning evidence to contary.