Am I over reacting?

LegacyUser

My boyfriend decided he wanted to go on a break last week. Have a bit of space for a week or two. I didn't want to but agreed...
All was fine until I noticed he has hidden his relationship status on fb but not deleted it a it still shows up on my page. I know it's just Facebook but still it's making me wonder. But do you guys think I'm overreacting? He did say he wanted to be single but wouldn't be with anyone else...

Thanks...

Esoteric_

If he said he wants to be single for a while, why would he keep his Facebook saying that he's in a relationship, while he's on a break? He could have changed it to 'It's Complicated.'

Really, who cares about Facebook? You said you agreed to a break for a few weeks, so see what happens in a few weeks. As of right now, you guys are not in a relationship, so why would he have his Facebook saying that he is?

Chocoholic84

What was the reason for going on a break?

LegacyUser

@LyndaMcL - I get what you mean but my understanding of a break was your still together but just not talking or meeting up etc. have I the wrong idea of it?

@Chocoholic84 - he wants space. And I complain to much about being sick.

Esoteric_

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@LyndaMcL - I get what you mean but my understanding of a break was your still together but just not talking or meeting up etc. have I the wrong idea of it?

@Chocoholic84 - he wants space. And I complain to much about being sick.

Well, peoples' interpretations of a break are different things, I guess. I see it as a break up, where you either do or don't meet other people (that's up to each individual couple), to re-evaluate the relationship and see if you want to go back to it.

If you don't see it that way, then I can understand being hurt by it. But at the end of the day, if you have agreed a period of no contact, there's very little you can do until you are back in contact.

Why does he say you complain about being sick? Have you got an illness or anything like that, or does he mean just general complaints, like saying you have a cold every other week?

LegacyUser

I've a illness and having hard time lately. I know I do go on but thought it was ok to my boyfriend, I don't complain about every little thing that's wrong though. And not everyday!!

Esoteric_

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I've a illness and having hard time lately. I know I do go on but thought it was ok to my boyfriend, I don't complain about every little thing that's wrong though. And not everyday!!

If you have an illness, then I can understand if you're feeling a bit down about it, especially if you've been having a hard time. I went through a period where I had a bad injury that left me in a lot of pain for months, and if my boyfriend at the time had been moaning that I complained, I'd have ripped his head off. :pac: Thankfully, he was a star and really looked after me.

I totally understand that you're going to feel pretty miserable if you're ill. On the other hand, though, it could be that it's bringing your boyfriend down, too. I know when I was injured, it was putting a lot of strain on my then boyfriend, although he handled it better than your boyfriend, but everyone reacts differently. Maybe it's bringing your boyfriend down too and he just wants to get away from it all for a while to chill out. If it's a long-term or life long illness, maybe he needs to think about whether he can deal with it in the long term, because not a lot of people could.

I wouldn't think too much into the Facebook relationship status. He hasn't removed it, he's just hidden it. I think Facebook plays too big a role in relationships now. He probably just doesn't want to have to deal with anything relationship-based at the moment, which is understandable if you're on a break. Just give it the few weeks that he asked for and see what happens.

Remember though, that YOUR needs matter too! You have to look after yourself first and foremost, so don't let your worry about your boyfriend stop you from thinking about what YOU want and need.

LegacyUser

It is life long. But I had given him the option of breaking up for good awhile back, if he can't handle it and he didn't want to break up, so I don't know. Also said that to him when we were talking about this break.
I don't want to be with someone who runs away when the going gets tough!!

Thanks for getting back to my Lynda.

djimi

How long have you been together?

LegacyUser

We have been together jut over two years