*akward silence*

gonebeyondajoke

Hi everyone,

I am a young guy in my early 20's and I love going out with mates having a few drinks, a laugh and abit of a dance :P

The thing is when I go out with my single mates they seem to have no problem talking to random people but I am shy and don't have the nerve to do it! I'm not into cheesey chat up lines or anything but if I do get talking to women (usually friends of the girls my mates is chatting up) I feel like a complete tool! I run out of things to say and I don't want to be a bore! I am not scared to talk to people it's just running the conversation into a brick wall!

Can anyone give me some tips on how to overcome this or topics that I can chat about without boring the poor girl to death!

Much Appreciated

Hardonraging

gonebeyondajoke wrote: »

Hi everyone,

I am a young guy in my early 20's and I love going out with mates having a few drinks, a laugh and abit of a dance :P

The thing is when I go out with my single mates they seem to have no problem talking to random people but I am shy and don't have the nerve to do it! I'm not into cheesey chat up lines or anything but if I do get talking to women (usually friends of the girls my mates is chatting up) I feel like a complete tool! I run out of things to say and I don't want to be a bore! I am not scared to talk to people it's just running the conversation into a brick wall!

Can anyone give me some tips on how to overcome this or topics that I can chat about without boring the poor girl to death!

Much Appreciated

Talk less, Listen more.

Cheesy chat up line's are exactally that, an ice breaker, even if they are the worst line's ever, as long as you dont insult her you can always follow up with, "my name is .... and you are?"

Roisy7

Hey OP

I'm a girl and I feel like this sometimes, especially if its a guy my friends have talked to first.

Maybe acknowledge it and make a joke?! Say "well this is awkward"- maybe you might get a laugh and get a girl chatting that way

sReq | uTeK

Chat up lines, are just lol, don't ever use them.

you "Hi How are you? having a good night?
her "Yea/no it's good/crap, hows your night"

you "Its good / crap mental busy in here you out with all these lot...point to friends, you out with work or mates or college, point to friends.
her "Yea out with this crazy lot"

You "Ah right, so what line of work you in, ah so what college course you doing?
her "Response, follow on"

Don't ask closed questions don't ask questions you feel will leave you with a lot of NO's it's probably a load of crap but their is a thought that the YES Pyramid exists, the more yes's she answers consecutively when you ask her for her number/buy her a drink ect she will more than likely say yes to that.

Chatting to someone isn't an exact science it's easy, some people you click with some you don't, trial and error baby.

Sephiroth_dude

ha ha I am in the same boat op,I wish I had good advice to give you

P. Breathnach

Hardonraging wrote: »

Talk less, Listen more...

A good way to do that is to ask questions: get the other person to talk about himself or herself. It is best not to be too intrusive at first: you don't want a life story straight off. You might ask about his or her holiday plans, or hobbies, or taste in music, or favourite television programmes, or whatever. That should open up possibilities for lots of follow-on questions, such as:
"have you been to Spain before?"
"why did you choose it?"
"what sort of things do you hope to do when you are there, nightlife and clubbing, or lazing on the beach, or sightseeing, or what?"

Unless a person is quite uninteresting, every answer should open up possibilities for further questions.

desbrook

The club scene is quite cruel in that you only get a short window to impress very often and what you say matters little as long as you arent rude .However talk less listen more is great advice and avoid questions with yes/no answers.
If the girl isn't answering your questions or isn't bothered she isn't interested and tbh there's very little you can do .... with her that is. Its important to recognise this subtle rejection accept it and move on . Ten minutes of laboured conversation with Sandra is pointless when Susan is sitting a yard away dying for you to talk to her . When you talk to Susan it'll be a different story and you'll suddenly notice you are getting three sentences back without trying . Remember that it is a two way street - it takes two to make an awkward silence, don't always blame yourself!