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In love with my best mate

  • 21-10-2012 3:48pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I suffer from depression for a long time now and have only told on of my mates about it. However, I have started to go to counselling but I feel my main issue now is that I fancy my best mate. He's not gay (I don't think) I normally am only attracted to girls but for some reason I fancy him. Hes the only guy I have the feelings for and I have no idea what to do.


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  • #2
    Jenneke87
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 807 ✭✭✭Jenneke87


    Has your mate supported you alot throughout your depression and perhaps because of that delevoped a crush on him? Or is there a possibility that perhaps you are bi-sexual?


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Yes, he has helped me loads but now I feel my feelings are getting in the way of us just being mates and having a laugh. I'm not sure should I tell him, then he shots me down I can move on or something but then it would be really awkward between us.


  • #4
    Roisy7
    Closed Accounts Posts: 548 ✭✭✭Roisy7


    I'm gonna go with another angle here. Maybe you're bi or gay, maybe you're not. Perhaps there is something you really like or admire in him and would like to be like him? You've obviously gone thru alot together which would intensify the feelings.

    Sexuality is a very fluid thing, attraction can waver and grow. I hate to say it but if he's straight it's not gonna go anywhere. But there's nothing wrong with what you're feeling.


  • #5
    gamerguy89
    Site Banned Posts: 12 ✭gamerguy89


    similar situation myself, to be honest i made a decision not to tell them i was attracted to them, i knew they had no interest and if i said anything it would have ruined our friendship. for me it came down to a choice

    tell them and run the risk of losing a supporting best friend
    or
    dont tell them and keep them in life as someone you can depend on.


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