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  • 20-10-2012 4:16pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    My partner of a year has a serious drug problem and has recently started rehab. I've being reading online about treatment and there seems to be a consensus, that it is a terrible idea for someone to date for the first year in recovery. I don't want to lose this person from my life but must consider what is best for them. Is there anyway to keep this relationship alive or is it doomed?


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  • #2
    Taltos
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    OP - please note as per our charter we cannot give any medical advice here. I know you have not directly asked for this but due to the nature of your query thought it best to state this now for your sake and for those of the posters who respond here with their advice.

    Taltos


  • #3
    Merkin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,230 ✭✭✭Merkin


    That is the consensus but I do think it should be taken on a case by case basis. The love and support of someone who really cares could be instrumental in an ex addict recovering. Likewise it could of course impinge on recovery, one of the reasons being that if things go t1ts up the ex addict could relapse. Why don't you speak with your BF and ask him can you speak to his doctor/guardian in rehab and maybe they will be able to best advise? That way you're getting informed medical advice from someone who knows your boyfriend and knows fully about drug addiction? I get that there is patient confidentiality but I think they would be willing to talk to you in this regard. Hope it works out the way you want and that he makes a full recovery.


  • #4
    daisybelle2008
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    Avoiding relationships is designed to protect the sobriety of the person until they are more stable in their recovery and less emotionally vulnerable. You will understand that from your research.
    Your relationship with this person has been while they have been a serious drug user. It would be kind of surprising if it was a very healthy stable relationship?. If it has been dysfunctional and uncertain then it is best for both if you to take an indefinite break.
    In any event he/she needs to give full attention to their recovery and trying to maintain a relationship could hamper that.
    In any event it is best for the person to evaluate what is best for recovery.
    You give scant details of how the relationship has been. If there already is issues with lying, disappearing and drama, you might need to look more at your own well being, put your self first and let him/her deal with their issues in their own time.


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