Don't know what to do

LegacyUser

Going anon for this as I post quite regularly here.

I have no idea what to do. 22 year old guy. I was going out with my ex for 2 and a half years when we broke up.

I was completely devastated as she had left me for someone else. A few months passed and we started to talk, then started seeing each other again.
A month later she broke up with me after a month as she said she didn't feel the same way.

We stopped talking for about a year and I started seeing someone else, even though I was still in love with her. I had to end that relationship because I felt I was being dishonest. Then the original ex came back on the scene. We kissed at a party & started to go on dates. But now it's over. Again. She broke up with me today, saying that she has no time to see me.

My mates tell me she's bad news and to stay away from her, but I'm still in love with her even though I hate how ****ty she's made me feel. I've passed by opportunities with girls along the way in hope of getting back with her.

I really don't know what to do, I don't want to see other people.

Sorry that this post is all over the place, head is completely melted.
G.

TEMPLAR KNIGHT

I let a girl do to me the exact same thing this girl is doing to you I tried my hardest to make things work out of love for this girl and then one day I woke up and I noticed nearly two years of my life had passed me by and what a ****ty few years. I relised I was too young for this hassle so the next time she broke up with me I never got back with her again. That was a year ago and while it's a hard thing to do and I just recently got over her, I am way happier than I was with her and now I have my whole youth to look forward to without that ****e from her. And now I relies how stupid i was being I remember thinking I couldn't live without her and how would I ever cope without her I actually laugh about that now and if I can get over my ex anyone can trust me. Moral of the story plenty of fanny in the sea!

trodsky

Have you told her how you feel? Do you know why she broke up with you 3 times?

jeni

Im so sorry i know how hard it is, if she rang you now youd probs take her back in a second, but shes not good for you, walk away, think for a second how you feel right now and try to remember that she is doing this too you, dont let it happen again,

Ive ben there done that and wore the smelly tshirt, my head was melted, but i soon saw what all my friends could see (what your friends can see)

Go out have fun, enjoy single life for a while, see what your missing

LegacyUser

She has broken up with you for the 3rd time as she has not the time to see you.
It is time for you to realise that this girl has no feelings for you.
You are there when she needs a boyfriend. When in her mind something better comes along your left home alone until another relationship ends for her.
At this stage I would not contact her. If she rings you again I would tell her that you are sick of being used and tell her that you have moved on with your life.
Your ex is a user and will keep doing this if you don't tell her to get lost.

At this stage I would start to go out with friends and get involved with some new social outlets ie sport or charity work. This would widen your circle of friends and you may meet a nice girl through this also.
I know it won't be easy to move on but for your own sake you have to do this.
The next time you meet a girl that you like go out with her and see what happens.

lukesmom

22 year old lad go out and start enjoying yourself instead of being strung along by your ex. I bet she comes running when she sees you with someone new.

Ickle Magoo

That's three times she's hurt you OP - it's time to accept that some people are not good for us regardless of how we feel about them. Keep busy and keep your friends about and listen to them.

Instead of getting upset - acknowledge your feelings of hurt and get angry. You deserve better than being dumped over and over again and your feelings being played with on someone else's whim. Getting back with someone you've dumped twice, I can understand - three times it's starting to look more like power-play than genuine and that's a very unhealthy place to be...

Write a list of all the negatives you associate with this girl and your relationships together thus far; all the hurt, all the anger, all the times you've been upset and your life knocked off-track because of her - pin it to the fridge/back of the front door until it sinks in that she's not healthy for you/you deserve more/you won't go back again for more.

All the best OP.

Roisy7

You poor thing

She's become a bad habit you need to break. So cut all contact with her, delete her number, delete her off Facebook, just don't allow yourself contact with her. If she comes back into your life in some undetermined point in the future, think back to how bad you feel right now, and ask yourself: Is any high, any love I feel, any sexual thrill, worth how you felt at that point? I think you know the answer.

I would also echo other posters and say you need to be single for a while. You didn't allow yourself time to get over it when you went out with the other girl. You're way too young for all this stuff- you're never gonna be 22 again, get out and have fun

Best of luck OP