Advertisement
If you have a new account but are having problems posting or verifying your account, please email us on hello@boards.ie for help. Thanks :)
Hello all! Please ensure that you are posting a new thread or question in the appropriate forum. The Feedback forum is overwhelmed with questions that are having to be moved elsewhere. If you need help to verify your account contact hello@boards.ie
Hi there,
There is an issue with role permissions that is being worked on at the moment.
If you are having trouble with access or permissions on regional forums please post here to get access: https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058365403/you-do-not-have-permission-for-that#latest

Awkward ex-work issue

  • 10-10-2012 11:30pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Ok, so I left a job a few weeks ago as I was re-locating. I was working in a team. While I was at another persons office informally, I met someone there who was in good form and we had a bit of a laugh. I said I worked in such a place, and she said she knew a girl in my team very well. Then I cracked a bit of an inappropriate joke by mistake. I said that the girl was 'sex mad', because of something she had studied in University to do with sex. I immediately explained I'd made the joke because of her studies. It was completely unprofessional.
    Anyway I've left now, but I am having great difficulty getting anyone at my old workplace to return an email or a phone call. I am quite an honest person and made every effort to help people out while there. ..but..I know how people are and how quickly they use an opportunity to add Hollywood to a story...maybe I'm being paranoid but I think her friend may have told her I'd said this, and now I've fallen out of favour.
    I'm wondering if I should send an email to this girl saying that I want to clear my conscience over something I feel bad about and let her know. Or am I being ridiculous?
    Part of my agenda is getting a decent reference....


Comments

  • #2
    Lorna123
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,116 ✭✭✭Lorna123


    I think myself that you did nothing wrong. Making that joke based on that girl's studies was nothing but a joke and it was the fault of the person you were talking to if she took it up wrong. You immediately explained so I would not go out of my way to do any more explaining. Let them think what they like. You should be able to get a decent reference from HR anyway. They base their references on how you performed in your job, not on what you said to this girl. I really think you are overthinking this. The fact that you are having a hard time getting anyone to reply to your e-mails is nothing more than "out of sight, out of mind" and that happens to all of us when we leave a job. People move on and are not interested in us once we leave and there is nothing personal in it. So don't let that worry you. You will make new friends in another job so best of luck with that.


Advertisement