how long should i wait for a text

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This sounds desperate, could do with some advice anyway. I met a man last sat nite while out with a friend. We kissed during the nite and lost each other at the end of it. The next morning my friend got a text from his friend asking for my number, which she gave. I was thrilled and expected to hear from him later that day (eager I know). Its now Thurs nite and I still haven't heard from him. I really liked him, and we got on great, and would love to meet up again. I don't have his number so can't be the one to text first and just feel, why ask for my number if he's not going to use it?, especially when it was the next morning he asked for it and not while full of drink. how long should i wait, my head is melted and can't help but check my phone every 5 mins. I'm in my 30's and feel like a silly school girl. throw your thoughts my way please, thanks!!

cafecolour

Umm, if he can find your number through your friend, can't you get his number through your friend and call him?

R.D. aka MR.D

he could just be waiting until the weekend to text to see if you are going out again or whatever.

I know it's difficult but try not obsess over it.

Lorna123

Wait for him to text first. That would be my advice. He knows how to get your number, has it now so all you can do is wait. I would not be tempted to ask for him number.

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cafecolour wrote: »

Umm, if he can find your number through your friend, can't you get his number through your friend and call him?

I did ask my friend to get his number but she thinks I should just wait for him to get in touch she wouldn't be the type to agree to a girl getting in touch first.

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Lorna123 wrote: »

Wait for him to text first. That would be my advice. He knows how to get your number, has it now so all you can do is wait. I would not be tempted to ask for him number.

Thanks Lorna, it's certainly hard, was thinkin of sendin him a friend request on fb, his name is unusual so wasn't hard to find, but don't want to look stalkerish.

Hardonraging

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Thanks Lorna, it's certainly hard, was thinkin of sendin him a friend request on fb, his name is unusual so wasn't hard to find, but don't want to look stalkerish.

Just sit on your hands and carry on with life, i've often waited a week to text a girl as i was busy with other things in life.

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pleasehelp.com wrote: »

cafecolour wrote: »

Umm, if he can find your number through your friend, can't you get his number through your friend and call him?

I did ask my friend to get his number but she thinks I should just wait for him to get in touch she wouldn't be the type to agree to a girl getting in touch first.

I hate this attitude, sorry OP, but male or female it doesn't make a difference. If you like him, get the number from your friend and text him. He obviously didn't think it was stalkerish doing it. If it were me, I'd be flattered if the girl made the first move in texting, especially with him obviously liking you too. Instead of sitting there, twiddling your thumbs, why not take the initiative and surprise him first with a text.

If he doesn't reply, he wasn't as interested in you as you are in him, so better to find out now than later.

Ellsbells

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I hate this attitude, sorry OP, but male or female it doesn't make a difference. If you like him, get the number from your friend and text him. He obviously didn't think it was stalkerish doing it. If it were me, I'd be flattered if the girl made the first move in texting, especially with him obviously liking you too. Instead of sitting there, twiddling your thumbs, why not take the initiative and surprise him first with a text.

If he doesn't reply, he wasn't as interested in you as you are in him, so better to find out now than later.

But he has her number. If he was that interested why didnt he use it????

LegacyUser

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I hate this attitude, sorry OP, but male or female it doesn't make a difference. If you like him, get the number from your friend and text him. He obviously didn't think it was stalkerish doing it. If it were me, I'd be flattered if the girl made the first move in texting, especially with him obviously liking you too. Instead of sitting there, twiddling your thumbs, why not take the initiative and surprise him first with a text.

If he doesn't reply, he wasn't as interested in you as you are in him, so better to find out now than later.

I reckon he will text by the weekend to find out what you are doing. He asked for your number off your friend and got it so I would wait for him to use it.

Usually I would be all for texting first but I've been on the other end of it lately where I text a guy first and didn't get a reply so I personally would wait for him to text.

I hope he texts

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Hardonraging wrote: »

pleasehelp.com wrote: »

Thanks Lorna, it's certainly hard, was thinkin of sendin him a friend request on fb, his name is unusual so wasn't hard to find, but don't want to look stalkerish.

Just sit on your hands and carry on with life, i've often waited a week to text a girl as i was busy with other things in life.

Thank you good to hear a blokes opinion

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boneyarsebogman wrote: »

pleasehelp.com wrote: »

cafecolour wrote: »

Umm, if he can find your number through your friend, can't you get his number through your friend and call him?

I did ask my friend to get his number but she thinks I should just wait for him to get in touch she wouldn't be the type to agree to a girl getting in touch first.

I hate this attitude, sorry OP, but male or female it doesn't make a difference. If you like him, get the number from your friend and text him. He obviously didn't think it was stalkerish doing it. If it were me, I'd be flattered if the girl made the first move in texting, especially with him obviously liking you too. Instead of sitting there, twiddling your thumbs, why not take the initiative and surprise him first with a text.

If he doesn't reply, he wasn't as interested in you as you are in him, so better to find out now than later.

Thanks all opinions are welcome believe me, I'll try get his number, I think

Legaleagle123

pleasehelp.com wrote: »

boneyarsebogman wrote: »

pleasehelp.com wrote: »

cafecolour wrote: »

Umm, if he can find your number through your friend, can't you get his number through your friend and call him?

I did ask my friend to get his number but she thinks I should just wait for him to get in touch she wouldn't be the type to agree to a girl getting in touch first.

I hate this attitude, sorry OP, but male or female it doesn't make a difference. If you like him, get the number from your friend and text him. He obviously didn't think it was stalkerish doing it. If it were me, I'd be flattered if the girl made the first move in texting, especially with him obviously liking you too. Instead of sitting there, twiddling your thumbs, why not take the initiative and surprise him first with a text.

If he doesn't reply, he wasn't as interested in you as you are in him, so better to find out now than later.

Thanks all opinions are welcome believe me, I'll try get his number, I think

I'd wait for him to contact you. As someone else said sit on your hands and try not obsess as hard as it may be.

Legaleagle123

Legaleagle123 wrote: »

pleasehelp.com wrote: »

boneyarsebogman wrote: »

pleasehelp.com wrote: »

cafecolour wrote: »

Umm, if he can find your number through your friend, can't you get his number through your friend and call him?

I did ask my friend to get his number but she thinks I should just wait for him to get in touch she wouldn't be the type to agree to a girl getting in touch first.

I hate this attitude, sorry OP, but male or female it doesn't make a difference. If you like him, get the number from your friend and text him. He obviously didn't think it was stalkerish doing it. If it were me, I'd be flattered if the girl made the first move in texting, especially with him obviously liking you too. Instead of sitting there, twiddling your thumbs, why not take the initiative and surprise him first with a text.

If he doesn't reply, he wasn't as interested in you as you are in him, so better to find out now than later.

Thanks all opinions are welcome believe me, I'll try get his number, I think

I'd wait for him to contact you. As someone else said sit on your hands and try not obsess as hard as it may be.

There's no harm in getting the number. One of my pet peeves is the game people play with regards to texting.

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myadvice wrote: »

Deleted User wrote: »

I hate this attitude, sorry OP, but male or female it doesn't make a difference. If you like him, get the number from your friend and text him. He obviously didn't think it was stalkerish doing it. If it were me, I'd be flattered if the girl made the first move in texting, especially with him obviously liking you too. Instead of sitting there, twiddling your thumbs, why not take the initiative and surprise him first with a text.

If he doesn't reply, he wasn't as interested in you as you are in him, so better to find out now than later.

I reckon he will text by the weekend to find out what you are doing. He asked for your number off your friend and got it so I would wait for him to use it.

Usually I would be all for texting first but I've been on the other end of it lately where I text a guy first and didn't get a reply so I personally would wait for him to text.

I hope he texts

I hope so too, I'll update if so

Katgurl

Never wait for a text. Get on with your week / weekend, if he gets in touch great, if not, there's someone better on the way.

I'm not trying to be patronising btw. I found since adopting this attitude years ago life is so much better.

Lorna123

If he asked for your number OP and got it then why isn't he texting. He knows that you are now expecting a text. If you really feel the need to do something then I would think that sending him a friend request on Facebook would be the better option.

daisybelle2008

pleasehelp.com wrote: »

This sounds desperate,
how long should i wait, my head is melted and can't help but check my phone every 5 mins. I'm in my 30's and feel like a silly school girl.

Hi Op,
Katgurl is right, you shouldn't wait for a text. Cool the jets and concentrate on other stuff. Head melted and phone checking every 5 mins for a guy you only just met once is a bit intense.

What will be will be.

Merkin

I think you seem to be investing a lot of time and energy into this guy you met fleetingly last week. I get that you think you like him but I would just leave things as they are. If he is interested, he is armed with the information needed to make contact. Sending friend requests and/or sending him texts is just unnecessary. I'm totally with Katgurl on this - if he gets in touch then that's great but if not then you've lost nothing. If I can give any advice I'd say don't invest a disproportionate amount of time or energy into will he call/won't he call scenarios. Get on with your life as normal, don't sit there in suspended animation willing some guy you met briefly to make contact.