Relationship help needed

LegacyUser

This is a bit of a long one so ill try explain as best I can.
I met this Girl 3 years ago we connected straight off and fell in love and dare I say
Real love in a matter of weeks .
The relationship started amazingly so much fun so much happiness and a intimacy level I've
Never experienced .
Our relationship went downhill after a the 2 year mark a lot if family issues and stresses and maybe us both not been mature enough to speak about our own problems and fights and bickering and just drifting ..
I have to hold my hand up a lot of these problems were might fault I went through personal problems and let them take me over and consume me until I basically changed to a pretty awful person and letting this girl have the blunt if my moods.
We have now been broken up nearly a month have talked a little here and there maybe 3/4 Texts each week or a phone call but everything still seems so raw with her .
It's always leaving on a fight.
I know I love her and I believe she still loves me .
The last week the only texts I get are nasty and pretty hurtful ones .
I've made a lot of changes to address these previous issues but she doesn't want to hear it and basically says change the record heard it all before.
I kinda think a proper "no contact" for a couple of weeks even 2 (and that's going to be hard to do)might make us both see things clearer.
My fear here is what if she sees this as me not caring and giving up ?
I've done the pleading I've done the begging and no joy.
I have a gut feeling where not done for good but maybe it's just wishful thinking and not accepting the facts .
She's told me its over . Why can't I just accept this?
I find I'm analysing every message looking for something to show she cares and I've nearly convinced myself those hurtful messages means she cares?
I can see on Facebook her life seems better than ever and maybe I should just accept her life is better without me and my drama .
As I said any advice is welcome and will be read.
I'm sure this a terrible read my writing skills where never good but thanks for reading ..
Regards
Heartbroken

Daisy78

I'm curious as to why you think she should come back to you? A few pleading texts from you doesnt mean anything to be honest. What have you to offer her now that you didn't before? If she bore the brunt of your bad humour before she'd be a fool to take you back imo. Leave her be, let her find somebody who treats her better. That's the best thing you can do.

Lorna123

Give her a chance to miss you first before you contact her again. Things will look different if you give this relationship a bit of airing space. I would suggest at least a month of no contact. If you still feel the same after a month then just send her a friendly text telling her you still feel the same about her and would like if you were together again. If she responds negatively then you will just have to leave it and move on. Hope it works out for you. Try and get out and socialize more yourself and it will help you to get over this. A breakup is a terrible time and not something that you get over in a day. So my heart goes out to you.

RossFixxxed

You pretty much said you were mostly to blame and made her the brunt of your emotions... You need to give her space for a while and see what happens. To be honest it sounds dead in the water. Maybe absence will make the heart grow fonder, maybe it will just highlight how wrong the whole thing really was... Pleading and begging and constant messaging is NOT the way to go.

curlzy

It sounds like you treated her like c*ap. If you really had any loving feelings you'd leave her alone to concentrate on getting over you and your treatment of her and to find someone who can treat her well.

LegacyUser

Guy thanks for your replies .
I'm not disputing what I done or how bad I was
And yes she deserves Better.
I've been in a very bad rut and trying desperately hard to right my wrongs and become the person she first fell in love with.
Yes it's idealistic , yes it's probably a lost cause but I love her
And really know given the chance I can be a different person .
Do you think time may allow her space to think ?
I feel such a fool and I know there is probably 1000s of posts on the web like this
It's just a pity I had to loose her to see what I'd lost .
It's not as easy as you may say to let her go and move on.
I'd love a chance to try show her I'm worth a gamble .

Jonti

Move on, she obviously has. You had many chances and fecked them up.
Make sure you don't do the same in your next releationship.

Lorna123

Time will tell OP