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Girlfriend kissed her ex

  • 27-09-2012 7:19pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I've been going out with a girl for around 6 months.
    Her ex (not really an ex) is also probably her best friend (or one of them). The ex has a wife and the marriage is only together because of the kids, himself and the wife can't stand each other (the wife in particular).

    She ended it with him and started going out with me a while later. He has tried to kiss her a few times and she has stoped him, she didn't stop the the other day though.

    She says she loves me and doesn't know what to say and is with me because she wants to be with me. In terms of the relationship, we live together and I have not met someone so well suited to me as her.

    I trust her far less now though, she has said that she won't see him again but I don't want to do this because he is also one of her only good friends.

    I don't know what to do now, I think i'll get over this but I don't know. Am I mad to not get rid of her? I don't know what i'll do


Comments

  • #2
    blatantrereg
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,743 ✭✭✭blatantrereg


    You're mad to not want her to stop seeing him anyway.

    I'd just dump her.


  • #3
    stargazer 68
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,164 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    Need a bit of advice 10 wrote: »
    She ended it with him and started going out with me a while later. He has tried to kiss her a few times and she has stoped him, she didn't stop the the other day though.

    Sorry Op but apart from the fact that she kissed someone else, this guy is married with kids too!! This 'only together for the kids' holds no truck with me!!


  • #4
    ManOfMystery
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,394 ✭✭✭ManOfMystery


    It sounds like there's some unfinished business between her and her ex. As far as I can see you have 2 options.

    1 - Cut your losses and run. You will probably find it her hard to trust her again, and if the friendship continues between her and her ex I can guarantee you're always going to be wondering what they're up to when they're out for a coffee or whatever. It's not a nice place to be in.

    2 - Stay together, in which case - if it was me - I would be insisting she doesn't see her ex any more. Whilst I agree that it's not fair to be dictacting who your other half can be friends with ordinarily, I think these are special circumstances. She can't hang about with an ex who obviously wants some kind of intimate relationship with her and with whom she's just cheated on you - it's not on.


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