immaturity???

LegacyUser

I'm a 26 year old male and have been in two long serious relationships in the past.

I'm in a third relationship now.

My exes were both around my age and were of a similar maturity.

My current gf is 22 and I find myself extremely bothered by her immaturity.

In particular, her obsession with facebook. She checks it all the time; when we're out, when we're having dinner, when we're watching a movie. It really gets on my nerves. She knows this, and has started to hide her Facebook use. She got in contact with an ex through Facebook and I found out about it by accident.
FWIW, I have no problem with her contacting exes, but I do have a problem with her hiding it. I don't expect her to tell me about it, but I don't expect her to hide it either. Anyway, I digress.

As soon as I am gone to work, she logs on and spends the day chatting with numerous girls and guys, some of whom she doesn't even know that well.

She has no job at the minute, and when I get home from work the house is in a mess. She doesn't do any cleaning or housework when I am not there. Instead, it is facebook all day. Literally.

I am not some old fashioned guy who expects women to do all the work - I always do my fair share of washing, ironing, cooking, etc. but it is grating to work hard all day and come home to a messy house.

Her facebook use is really beginning to affect our relationship.

Am I overreacting?

Is there a solution?

Is it worth breaking up over?

stargazer 68

OP how long are you with her?

LegacyUser

op here.

With her almost a year. Living together for three months.

Zen 2nd

I know when I was unemployed, even though I would have loads of time to myself, finding the motivation to tidy up very difficult. You almost get stuck in a rut. Though everyone is different but that is what happened to me.

In regards to the Facebook usuage, it does seem over the top but then again it could be an escape because of her unemployment.

The first step would be to sit down with her and understand why she is on Facebook all the time. Communication is the key here. When you understand why she is on it all the time then you should be able to come up with a solution that lets her be on Facebook but also that she has other tasks to complete.

Buncha Fives

OP i dont know if I would call it immaturity its probably more of an addiction because she has had too much time on her hands and it has become a bad habit which she cant snap out of...i know people who are long term unemployed and they have got into some dreadful habits from drinking, gambling, watching porn (I mean more than the usual amount!) etc. and I would think she is probably in the same trap.

Unemployment is also lonely and if she is at home on her own all day she probably misses the social side of working... chatting online is probably some type of interaction for her. I would encourage her to become more active like go for a walk in the mornings and then she will be more motivated for the rest of the day and get more involved with house work.

Katy89

that's just so rude of her and shows the new media addiction.

and I think you are completely right to call it immature and the unemployment wouldn't be an excuse for me.

she can still tidy up, it's disrespectful towards you coming home from hard work.

and the facebook stuff is even more rude. I mean, she can do this all time you're not around, but if you're around she should get her act together. otherwise she's seriously addicted and I wouldn't tolerate such being in a relationship.

as the others suggested, sit down with her and talk it through in an adult manner if that's possible with her.
give her the chance to improve, if she isn't...up tp you to decide whether you can deal with it..