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  • 25-09-2012 8:51pm
    #1
    7 year gap
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5 ✭


    hi im a 32 year old woman who has been with her husband for the last 7 years we have to beautiful children of 5 and 1 a boy and a girl there has been problems in our relationship all along from an abortion i had at the very beginning and because of this he cheated on me i suppose as a sort of payback i dont really no. but for some reason we stayed together and had our little girl last year after we got married since the wedding and the baby things have got gradually worse resulting in a complete ban on sex from him he claims he hasnt got a sex drive but still masturbates just doesnt seem to want any physical contact from me im at my wits end over this and we are constantly arguing resulting in him walking out i have suggested relationship counselling but he says he doesnt think talking to a sreanger will help things. im at my wuits end at the minute and am finding it so hard to cope since he walked out what do u think should i just walk away or should we try make things work any feedback appreciated


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  • #2
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    OP - for all intents and purposes he has already walked away.

    You gave him an opportunity to work it out and you just go excuses...
    It might be an idea to go and talk to a counsellor yourself to get some guidance or just to vent.

    Then if you really want to give it one more try ask him again if he would like to join you one time - no pressure - but that you believe your marriage is worth fighting for. If he still refuses then sorry but that would be your answer...


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    It is dreadful what you have told us in your post.
    This is not fair on either of you. Is he under a lot of stress with work or has there being any major change in his life since your daughter was born? Is he worried about you get pregnant again?
    Does he think that this is acceptable way to act for a grown man who is married with two children?
    I would explain to your husband that you are unhappy with the way things are and that you want to go to relationship counselling.
    Tell him you know that counselling will be hard for both of you but you feel it is worth doing to help you both at the moment and to give your marriage a chance.
    If you look up accord.ie you can find out were to have counselling and more about it also.
    I hope that things work out for you.


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