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Ex still in my head

  • 18-09-2012 3:02pm
    #1
    den87
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 531 ✭✭✭


    Hey, just looking for a bit of advice/wisdom on this matter.

    Me and the ex broke up around this time last year, we were together 4.5 years. we work together, not directly but in same building and see each other daily, we chat very little and if we do its mostly work related. She has a new bf since March which was tough as she used to bring him into the workplace on a constant basis and I've had to see them talking,giggling, going for lunch together.

    My problem is, I think about her everyday. Not a day goes by when I don't think about something we did/had together. I don't miss her or her company or even want her back yet I still think about her daily. When I see her with her new bf or even see him on his own it turns my stomach and i get this rotten feeling inside me.

    Is all this normal? How do i stop it? Or am i just being stupid, its been a year right?
    Thanks


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  • #2
    Buncha Fives
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 145 ✭✭Buncha Fives


    OP there has been a few similar threads on here lately and going by them I wouldnt think you are any different to anyone else. You spent 4.5 years together, she was a big part of your life over a long period so it wouldnt be easy to have absolutely zero feelings for her...even if you no longer want her I can see how her being with another guy would bother you.

    Working together has made it very difficult for you to get a clean break from her. Have you moved on yourself and met someone else yet? If you meet someone else that you have feelings for I think it would a lot easier for you to put her out of your mind...it could be a case of having nothing or no one to occupy your mind so you tend to think back of the times you were together.


  • #3
    den87
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 531 ✭✭✭den87


    Buncha Fives wrote: »
    OP there has been a few similar threads on here lately and going by them I wouldnt think you are any different to anyone else. You spent 4.5 years together, she was a big part of your life over a long period so it wouldnt be easy to have absolutely zero feelings for her...even if you no longer want her I can see how her being with another guy would bother you.

    Working together has made it very difficult for you to get a clean break from her. Have you moved on yourself and met someone else yet? If you meet someone else that you have feelings for I think it would a lot easier for you to put her out of your mind...it could be a case of having nothing or no one to occupy your mind so you tend to think back of the times you were together.

    Thanks.
    To answer your question, I haven't moved on in the sense of meeting someone else, its only recently that I've really felt I want to meet someone where as before I just had no interest.


  • #4
    DangerMouse27
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 699 ✭✭✭DangerMouse27


    Hi Den!

    Yours is probably very different to other posters as you still see this ex almost every day in work. That has to be tough. But its supposed to be.

    All it tells you is the feelings that you had for her were genuine. Take solace in that. It is easy to tell that you are not interested in her. Its pretty inevitable that you will meet someone soon. Good luck pal! You seem a good guy.


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