Depressed 16 year old male

LegacyUser

Okay,I am a regular poster on this site but wish to remain anonymous for this.


Well the thing is I'm depressed....I have not been medically checked out but I am 90% sure that I am.I just feel really fu****g sh*t all the time.I am writing this this evening after being questioned by my mam for the third time this week asking "whats wrong?Are you worried about something?,You're not yourself ".the thing is I haven't been myself for the past few months.I am a 16 year old and done my junior cert this year(this probably contributed).I used to be a very athletic guy,2 years ago I was training hard every day of the week when I was told to stay off sports for a year,then again told to stay off for 6 months,back into it again for a few months then I had surgery so off again,and then just as I finished my time off for surgery I was hospitalised for with a heart problem.Because I did sports my whole life I was always in good shape and I think I learned to take my confidence from my physical body.I used to be one of the fittest,fastest most athletic people in the school and now I am not,I feel I have put on a good bit of weight since my time in hospital and I think this is ultimately making me feel bad.I have been asking my parent for a gym membership for ages hoping it will put an end to the depression.I also am trying to allow me to apply for a firearm because this is something I really want too.I really do want to tell them what i feel like but I feel stupid even thinking of telling them and I am worried that if I tell them I am depressed they will not let me get a firearm(Unlikely anyway).I have now turned really shy/quiet from big cheerfull /funny,I am a shell of my former self with no confidence.

I just wanted to post today because I really want to tell them but I just cant' and I need some advice in dealing with this.

Big Bag of Chips

OP, I am a mother.

The first thing I want to tell you is your parents are worried about you. They want you to talk to them. They don't care what it is that you need to tell them, they just want you to talk. And whatever it is they will do their very very best to help you.

Your mother has a good idea that something is wrong. And she may already be thinking the worst.. you're on drugs.. being bullied.. etc. It is a very very difficult thing to admit to, even for someone much older than you. But once you do, things will seem much better. Not saying you will feel better, but you will feel lighter. "like a weight has been lifted". It's clichéd, because it's true.

If you can't bring yourself to physically say the words, write them a letter.

Just let them in.

Ickle Magoo

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ElleEm

I couldn't agree more with BBOC.
Tell your folks how you are feeling, and even if you feel you can't articulate your words, tell them what you can. Or write them a letter. They can support you and will help you go to a doctor.

Don't wait for a gym membership for you to get active, start going for walks/ runs of you can. Exercise releases the "feel good" hormones and may help you feel better about yourself (energy, weight loss, etc.).

Depression can take you over if it is not treated. You will lose so much of yourself of you don't address it.

Take care x