FML

Rick_

OK, briefly, I like guy A. He's not interested in me but we are friends. I move on and find guy B. I like guy B. He's not interested in me but we are friends. Now I find out guy A and guy B are a new couple :rolleyes: but are having some problems. So there's me and guy A sitting for several hours last night in my car, he's telling me all his/the relationships problems and I'm giving him advice on what to do. All the while I'm talking to him I'm thinking "I should be with you, not him". But, anyway, I told him what he needed to hear and also what to do, and it clearly worked, as they are all happy and lovey dovey again. I on the other hand feel like crap. Maybe one day I'll catch a break...!

stephen_n

Now that is a truely ****ty position to be in, if the guy knows you have feelings for him, that's pretty unfair of him to come to you. I'm a firm believer of what is meant for you, won't pass you by, not that it helps right now but there is someone out there for you!

Rick_

Well, the feelings have all but gone away as it was about 18 months since I had told him I liked him and he said he wasn't interested in me, so I'd got over it. Of course, being alone with him and him close to tears over stuff wasn't helping as all I wanted to do was give him a hug but I didn't even want to do that in case it was misconstrued. I don't think he knew anything about my feelings coming back last night, as far as he was concerned we were friends and that's it. He is a lovely guy though and if he or anyone else ever needs help then I am more than willing to supply it.

coolperson05

You're a really good friend and I'm sure he appreciates the advice you gave. Hope everything works out for you, you seem like a good guy! And hey...if it's meant to be.... *cringe* lol (I hate that saying too!) :rolleyes:

**EDIT**

I didn't read stephen_n's post properly...sorry for the repetition! You need a good night out!

1ZRed

That must have been a nice kick to the crotch. Ah well man, annoying turn of events but you're being a good friend and not trying to feck things up on them so you can get ahead.

Plenty out there for you so don't bother worrying about it.

Aurongroove

You are to be commended for the character and honour you showed Paddy.

I'd like to think I'd be as unbelievably selfless and honourable in a similar situation. A more manipulative person would've taken the opportunity to get their foot in the door and though they were clever for doing it.



Proud.:cool:

rochey84

Aurongroove wrote: »

You are to be commended for the character and honour you showed Paddy.

I'd like to think I'd be as unbelievably selfless and honourable in a similar situation. A more manipulative person would've taken the opportunity to get their foot in the door and though they were clever for doing it.



Proud.:cool:

Maybe I'm just stupid but I would imagine that anyone, no matter who they are, if they call themselves a friend would have acted the way Paddy did. I'm not knocking it, I've been there counselling a friend I've feelings for through relationship issues, but I honestly can't imagine being able to live with myself if I had manipulated the situation to my advantage.

For what it's worth Paddy, if you had manipulated the situation to your advantage it would have eventually come back to bite you, either through the 2 of them eventually talking about their issues or a short lived romance for you that leaves you pining more for guy A, than you ever did. You can't miss what you never had man!

Also fair play to you for having the maturity to tell both these lads (at seperate times obviously) how you felt and dealing with the answer you recieved in a logical adult way, there are too many out there who would have behaved in a really bad way.

ongarboy

You did the right thing and highlighted what a decent guy you are. While you might feel lousy over seemingly being the one with the short straw, I think you know that doing the right thing ultimately makes you feel better as a person than manipulating/using underhand tactics to get what you want.

PS - pardon my ignorance but what is or does FML stand for?

coolperson05

it means F*** My Life! lol

i_steal_sheep

Is it a good or a bad thing that I did not know what FML or TOWIE meant until today?

Maithú Paddy on recognising what real friendship is all about. There's goodness in you that will not go unnoticed by some man some day!

1ZRed

i_steal_sheep wrote: »

Is it a good or a bad thing that I did not know what FML or TOWIE meant until today?

Where tf have you been?

Excluding TOWIE, It's not a good thing tbh

Conor30

Thanks, I just learnt what FML meant!! I already knew TOWIE I prefer MIC aka Made In Chelsea

coolperson05

Is there a difference?!

1ZRed

coolperson05 wrote: »

Is there a difference?!

They'e two different types of shit. That's it really.

Aurongroove

FML:

The forum meeting over at gaire we spent the last few weeks arranging is looking less likely for me to attend: I mixed my rent days up and I can't afford the commute!

Sir Pompous Righteousness

Sounds like a threesome to me.

/exits.

Rick_

Not to drag this back up but just logged on to see Guy A's profile pic is a pic of him and Guy B holding each other, posing romantically. I wanna cry... :-(

Sam Tyler

Tough and all as that is , at least you know that you have been there as a friend. He doesn't like you as much as you like him but at least you are still a part of his life!

It's hard to move on, I understand completely and you will reach a point where you have moved on from that. Dare I ask do you still hold on to the thought that he might turn up on your doorstep declaring undying love for you ? If the answer is yes then you need to let that thought go and it will, trust me when I say that.

I think you should be very proud of yourself that you have done the right thing with regards to everyone involved and you have a clear conscious! I wish I had a kind thoughtful friend like you!

Keep your head up chief !!