Girlfriend Issues

LegacyUser

Me and my girlfriend have been going out for almost 4 years now.
We love each other very much talk about marriage, children and everything.
I have only one problem with her and maybe I'm lucky it's just the one but I'll try see if I can fix it.
She's always going out with friends etc. which is fine and invites me along every time which is also great. I very rarely reject her invites, but when I do she goes mad. I make a great effort to see her daily and do the best I can to keep her happy.
I say no based only on tiredness from working all day working all night or being in very early in the morning ect.
She just doesn't get it, I mean she gets it but she won't except it as a reason. It's then she whips at the one word answers or texts me back saying "ok." or "night."
I mainly want to go out with her and her friends to spend time with her and them and we all get along very well. However, sometimes I feel I need to be there to "mind" her. She gets almost too drunk sometimes and I feel I need to care for her and when I try to stop her from drinking more or even suggest a glass of water after she's had a few too many she will storm off and not talk to me .
Ruins the whole not. Over absolutely stupid things. She'll insist how not drunk at all she is but it's obvious and it's all my fault .
I say this also because maybe in the back of my mind I don't want to be there to a certain extent especially after a long day at work because I never get to relax and have to baby her nearly . She's a very beautiful girl and understandably she gets a lot of attention but she doesn't even realise these guys are making moves on her, she see's it as them wanting to be friends as she is a very friendly person and would talk to a wall if she could.
Any ideas?
sorry for it being long

Ellsbells

Have you talked to her about it when she is sober?

LegacyUser

Yes, she'll insist how not drunk at all she was and I'm just being "boring".

I'm not boring I like going out and having fun just when I'm forced into looking after her it's more of a chore than a relaxing night out.

Peanut2011

Op, she sounds like a spoilt brat who always got what she wants. You did not mention the age group you two are in as that will very much depend on what you would do next.

One of the things for sure you need to do is sit down and talk to her. If she won't listen and just puffs her nose up and gets in the mood than I guess she is not the girl you see her to be and she is not for you.

moezone1990 wrote: »

She's a very beautiful girl and understandably she gets a lot of attention but she doesn't even realise these guys are making moves on her, she see's it as them wanting to be friends as she is a very friendly person and would talk to a wall if she could.

In relation to this part, from the way you described her I would say she knows very well what the guys are up to and she is used to it. She gets what she wants out of it!

Either way, don't envy you OP!

Herrick

Acting like a child when you don't want to go out with her and her friends and then storming off and accusing you of being boring when you suggest reining in the drinking. I assume she's one of these people that thinks going out and having fun translates to getting so drunk you fall on your ass?

Jesus OP she sounds like serious pain in the hole. Very immature.

Beruthiel

moezone1990 wrote: »

I'm not boring I like going out and having fun just when I'm forced into looking after her it's more of a chore than a relaxing night out.

Have you said that to her? I'd have no problem telling it like it is.
I'd also have no problem telling my partner that I have no interest in spending my time with his/her friends if I have something else I'd rather be doing.

LegacyUser

She gets almost too drunk sometimes and I feel I need to care for her and when I try to stop her from drinking more or even suggest a glass of water after she's had a few too many she will storm off and not talk to me

OP stop babying her, you're her boyfriend not her mother. next time you're out just don't say a word, let her get p**d an make a complete fool of herself. Maybe then she'll start to realise how unacceptable her behaviour is, she's a grown woman let her deal with the consequences of her own actions for a change.

She's always going out with friends etc. which is fine and invites me along every time which is also great. I very rarely reject her invites, but when I do she goes mad. I make a great effort to see her daily and do the best I can to keep her happy.
I say no based only on tiredness from working all day working all night or being in very early in the morning ect.
She just doesn't get it, I mean she gets it but she won't except it as a reason. It's then she whips at the one word answers or texts me back saying "ok." or "night."
I mainly want to go out with her and her friends to spend time with her and them and we all get along very well. However, sometimes I feel I need to be there to "mind" her.

She seems incredibly self absorbed, it sounds like she sees you as her personal assistant rather than a boyfriend to be honest. OP part of the reason she treats you like this is because you let her and she knows she can get away with it. Next time you don't want to go out. Just stick your ground and don't give in to her, and do not apologise for not going. Eventually she should cop herself on when she realises her little temper tantrums aren't working anymore.