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I don't know what I want...

  • 09-09-2012 12:49am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi

    My issue basically is that I can't stop thinking about my ex. I broke up with him about 6 months ago, we weren't together very long. The relationship wasn't in reality all that great, but I've never really been able to let him go. We broke up due to circumstance more than anything. I don't understand why I can't stop thinking about him. Even when I meet him out I don't think he's all that great, but then I obsess... Its confusing. I think I may have been/ am infatuated with him. I know that he's not right for me and not good for me and the opportunity has come up to hook up with him again but I did not.

    That was due to the second part of my problem, I have been seeing someone else for 2 months now. This guy is close to perfect for me. We get on like a house on fire, the sex is great, he's good for me in many ways.

    And yet I can't forget the first guy. Is it unfair of me to be seeing guy 2 at all? I am hoping that my obsession with guy 1 is just a stupid crush and will fade. I would never do anything to hurt guy 2 and I would really miss him if we were to break up.

    I'm confused and I feel guilty every time guy 1 crosses my mind, I feel like I'm mentally cheating. Has anyone been in this situation?


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  • #2
    Hardonraging
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,641 ✭✭✭Hardonraging


    Do you feel as if you are drawn to the first guy ( the wrong guy ) because you think you can change him ?

    This new guy sounds perfect, but maybe that's the issue .. he's too perfect ..


  • #3
    girl2
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 654 ✭✭✭girl2


    A lot of the time some women are drawn to bad boys. And it's hard to let go.

    You have to weigh up what is more important to you - being with someone who does nothing for you or being with someone who you are great with.

    I can see where the last poster mentioned you being drawn to him because you feel you might be able to change him....and this could be it. Or is it possible that you are hung up on it because it was something you were involved in that failed. Some people are unable to let go of things that have failed.....and this is maybe why you are finding it hard to let go. Concentrate more on letting go of the fact that we dont always win and sometimes things dont work out and sometimes we fail.

    Hope it works out OP.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I think thats the problem alright. Guy 1, although we have little in common, has that 'bad boy' kind of edge.

    The thing is, I don't want to be one of them women that runs after bad boys. I'm really enjoying having a nice guy in my life, but at the same time its so safe.

    I just wish I could be happy with that and forget guy 1. Is it fair to keep seeing guy 2? Do you think this is something that will fade with time?


  • #5
    Hardonraging
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,641 ✭✭✭Hardonraging


    confused345p3 wrote: »
    I think thats the problem alright. Guy 1, although we have little in common, has that 'bad boy' kind of edge.

    The thing is, I don't want to be one of them women that runs after bad boys. I'm really enjoying having a nice guy in my life, but at the same time its so safe.

    I just wish I could be happy with that and forget guy 1. Is it fair to keep seeing guy 2? Do you think this is something that will fade with time?


    You'll eventually forget about guy no 1 .. if you avoid him that is ..

    And in time you'll appreciate guy no 2 ... his reliability and sensibility will form the backbone of a very stable relationship ..

    Let you're head win, and you're heart will follow..


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