Straight guy with gay sexual fantasys

guest912

Guys im not looking for labels or flaming here i just want to understand my urges a little better? I live a fully straight life with a stunning gf that i love so much but heres what gets me.. when im arroused and realy turned on i get fantasys that i would class as gay but i have no feelings or desires for males besides this urge when i am arroused? Does anyone have experience with it? The desires are mainly oral..

BluntGuy

This is my first post on this forum, so apologies if it's not overly helpful.

I think only you can really understand your fantasies. Obviously you can fantasise about all sorts of stuff you wouldn't even consider doing in real life. To throw out some suggestions: it could just be that it's simply the idea of sex that you find arousing, or it could be a manifestation of some curiosity towards the same sex. I mean, do you only have fantasies about the same sex?

As for "not looking for labels or flaming", I don't even know how you could put a label on what you've described. If you feel content and happy describing yourself as "straight", then you should feel free. If you feel sexually and emotionally fulfilled with your partner then that's the main thing.

Wandsworth

guest912 wrote: »

Guys im not looking for labels or flaming here i just want to understand my urges a little better? I live a fully straight life with a stunning gf that i love so much but heres what gets me.. when im arroused and realy turned on i get fantasys that i would class as gay but i have no feelings or desires for males besides this urge when i am arroused? Does anyone have experience with it? The desires are mainly oral..

What you seem to be saying is that you have a desire to have sex with another man at times, and you want to "understand" that. I am not sure what there is to understand beyond the fact that that is something you desire, from time to time.

Certainly a stranger in cyberspace is unlikely to help someone understand their fantasies or sexual desires any more than he can help them understand their desires for steak over fish for supper last night.

We are all somewhere on the sexual spectrum, and just because you are not 100% straight doesn't mean you are predominently or even largely same sex attracted. Only you can decide if you want to turn this fantasy into reality.

In Ireland, many still have the dead hand of the church's poisonous hate speech on sexuality in their DNA, where a group of male virgins terrorised and abused a whole nation telling them that sex was a filthy disgusting act and telling them who they could sleep with, when, and in what positions.

Sex if fun. It can be wonderful and rich and sometimes dark and enticing. Fantasies about men, women and dogs and lampposts are entirely normal, as are fantasies about hundreds of other things too.

My only advice is to not be concerned about your fantasies, to enjoy them, and only decide to enact them if they are legal and with other consenting adults.

1ZRed

I'm a gay guy who fantasises about girls sometimes. I'm not bi or very near to it but yeah, when I'm feeling very horny or just have the idea in my head I would think about messing around with a girl, and have done and continue to do so the odd time.

Now, I believe sexuality is fluid and even though I'm far more attracted to men, I'm not 100% gay. Sometimes for no reason I do really think about girls but that wouldn't make me bi even, not even close because these thoughts are spur of the moment types of things and I go back to thinking about guys soon enough. I just have an attraction there that gets stronger sometimes. No big deal. I don't have to re-label myself because it's not that significant at all.

Your attractions could be much weaker than mine and just be some curiosities, which is common and normal. You don't have to act on them but so what, it's just a thought and a fantasy.
But just realise and accept it's just a small little attraction or interest that gets you going but it doesn't dent you being a straight man, no more than it makes me bisexual rather than gay for thinking along the same lines.

I'm not 100% gay and you are not 100% straight. I believe it impossible to be 100% of anything because everyone has same sex thoughts every once in a while. You are just predominantly straight, as I am predominantly gay.
Nothing more to it really.

Ratac

There was a study undertaken by Dr. Alfred Kinsey (great movie about him, actually) and he came up with the Kinsey Scale which suggests that sexuality is much more fluid than we'd like to think. While I don't think you're gay you may be slightly bi or bi-curious even.

MarriedButBi

I wouldn't worry about it. My wife fantasises about girls.kissing them, sucking their tits, when she is horny. I like the idea of being with a man, being penetrated. Nobody is 100% gay or straight I dont think, and we all have desires. The question is can you explore them while in a relationship without upsetting the relationship.

mtjm

guest912 wrote: »

Guys im not looking for labels or flaming here i just want to understand my urges a little better? I live a fully straight life with a stunning gf that i love so much but heres what gets me.. when im arroused and realy turned on i get fantasys that i would class as gay but i have no feelings or desires for males besides this urge when i am arroused? Does anyone have experience with it? The desires are mainly oral..

I could have written this myself, when I'm masterbating I tend to think about guys and all sorts of weird fantasises, doesn't mean your gay or even bi, I do get arosed when thinking of women and men