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b/f afraid of commitment

  • 28-08-2012 3:30pm
    #1
    shoes34
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 620 ✭✭✭


    My boyfriend has told me that he thinks he has commitment issues.

    When we are together we have a great time and are in contact when we are apart. He told me when he is not with me he misses me, but that he thinks he has committment issues.

    I don't wish to spend 24 hours a day 7 days a week with him, and we both have seperate lives, each our own home, our own friends and we also know each others friends and we all get along but he doesn't know why he is afraid of committment.

    Not sure what kinda of advice I'm looking for, I know I can't make him commit if he doesn't want to and also I don't think it has got to the stage in our relationship where I am looking for a commitment. We have never discussed it he jsut came out with that statement.


Comments

  • #2
    Ellsbells
    Closed Accounts Posts: 985 ✭✭✭Ellsbells


    What exactly does he mean by commitment?


  • #3
    Piliger
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,741 ✭✭✭Piliger


    Ellsbells wrote: »
    What exactly does he mean by commitment?

    Exactly OP .. Commitment to what ? monogamy ? marriage ?


  • #4
    Big Bag of Chips
    Administrators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 14,910 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Big Bag of Chips


    How long are you together? Sounds like he's telling you he doesn't want a girlfriend? I might be wrong, but it seems a very strange statement to make out of nowhere.

    The only way you'll know what he means is by asking him, I'm afraid.


  • #5
    dudara
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 33,518 ✭✭✭✭dudara


    He *thinks* he has commitment issues? Did he explain what he meant by this statement, and what impact it will have on your relationship?

    You need to know what he means by this.


  • #6
    pinkdaisy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 58 ✭✭pinkdaisy


    dudara wrote: »
    He *thinks* he has commitment issues? Did he explain what he meant by this statement, and what impact it will have on your relationship?

    You need to know what he means by this.

    Exactly. That is such a camouflaged statement. What does he view as commitment?

    Before you go any further with this you need to ask him what he's trying to say by this?

    It sounds to me that he is trying to say something more harsh but doesn't want to upset you by telling you the brutal truth.


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