gf query

decmanning

Hi all, just looking for a bit of advice and peoples opinions on something in my relationship with my gf of over 2 years.

So about a year ago an ex girlfriend of mine commented on my facebook page and i replied however we are just friends and there is nothing more, i love my girlfriend very much and i only have eyes for her, anyway my girlfriend saw it and went mad asking me how many of my ex's i was friends with on i facebook, i told her about 5 but dont really talk to them anymore, she flipped and said why would i want to talk to any of my ex's? I explained that its nothing and that they mean nothing and if it really bothered her then i would delete them, she said do what you want so i deleted them, i didnt need to be freinds with them and it was effecting my relationship so i just deleted them and didnt think anything of it.

I then inquired about how many of her ex's she was friends with (i knew for a fact she was friends with one) she said she had deleted all of them bar one (fair enough she was honest about it) she explained that she never really talks to him anymore, at this point i checked his fb page, i dont know why but i did, i told her if i deleted my ex's then she should hers, she said if it bothered me that much then she would but i told her that it was her choice and that she should do what she wants

few days later i checked to see if they were still friends and no sign of him as being one of her friends, nothing more said about it until a few months later when i was in a mates house and he was on fb (mutual friend with my gf), my gf had just put up a few pictures and on 1 of my girlfriend where she looked very well and all dalled up a man had liked the photo, my mate started to rip the piss outta me saying oh another man likes your girlfriends photo are ya jealous and all this, we laughed it off, i then went over and looked at the photo, the person who liked it was the ex, i thought they were not friends anymore, i asked my mate to click on him and then we saw that they were still friends, i went onto my page to look but i couldnt find him on facebook, he had blocked me

My problem is not them being friends, i dont care about that, my problem is that he blocked me, he had obviuosly blocked me after the chat about being friends with ex's, did my girlfriend go to him and ask him to block me so i wouldnt know that they were friends? I find this a bit decieving, does anyone else find this a bit odd or am i over reacting?

SunnyDub1

It is a little odd. But it's only a like on a picture - would it not be worse if there was mails going back and forward or there was signs of flirting.

There is so much new privacy settings on FB that is easy to block certain things such has mutual Friends etc from another friend.

Why haven't you just approached your gf over this and asked her ?

Another thing from reading your post is that it seems there is a lot of trust issues in your relationship?
Personally I don't see the problem with being Friends with an ex on FB if the relationship finished on good terms. It's not like you are writing posts to each other every day. All seems a little immature IMO.
I'm still friends with my ex on FB and really don't see it has a big deal.

decmanning

I dont think there are trust issues, i think the idea of me talking to another girl just gets to her and she gets jealous, she is a bit more jealous than your average girl but she does trust me, about the like on the picture i have no problem with that, that does not make me suspicious or jealous in any way, the thing im most concerned about is the fact he blocked me, why woiuld he do that? ive never had any contact with him, the only reason i can think of is that my girlfriend told him to block me, thats what i find strange

SunnyDub1

decmanning wrote: »

I dont think there are trust issues, i think the idea of me talking to another girl just gets to her and she gets jealous, she is a bit more jealous than your average girl but she does trust me, about the like on the picture i have no problem with that, that does not make me suspicious or jealous in any way, the thing im most concerned about is the fact he blocked me, why woiuld he do that? ive never had any contact with him, the only reason i can think of is that my girlfriend told him to block me, thats what i find strange

If your not able to talk to any other girls - then there is trust issues. That's controlling and really immature and not right IMO. What happens in the future if you get a job in a office where there are woman working are you not aloud to communicate with these because your girlfriend gets jealous ? You should be looking into that probelm before wondering why her ex blocked you on FB.

Why can't you just approach your girlfriend and ask her is there any reason why he may have blocked you?

Piliger

decmanning wrote: »

I dont think there are trust issues, i think the idea of me talking to another girl just gets to her and she gets jealous, she is a bit more jealous than your average girl but she does trust me, about the like on the picture i have no problem with that, that does not make me suspicious or jealous in any way, the thing im most concerned about is the fact he blocked me, why woiuld he do that? ive never had any contact with him, the only reason i can think of is that my girlfriend told him to block me, thats what i find strange

Jealousy is an insidious and corrupting thing in a relationship. You would do well not to be so dismissive of it. It starts with friends on fb and spreads to other things. It is critically important that you hold the line and don't pander to it - even at this early stage. If you pander, it gets worse. If you hold the line there's a decent chance she will adapt and get used to the fact that you are entitled to have friends that are women and to stay in contact with ex's like a normal decent guy.

judgefudge

There's probably nothing in it. But somebody above said "it was just a like". When somebody blocks you on fb you can't see anything they write or comments they make and so on. Not saying your gf is being flirty with him, but if she is then you can't see it.

I find the whole "must delete exs off facebook" very juvenile to be honest.

Glendambo

My goodness, your girlfriend is quite the hypocrite.

She throws a wobbler over you having an ex as a friend on facebook but sees no problem with her doing the same. That is ridiculous behaviour.

Personally I think you're right, and she did tell this ex to block you so that she could remain friends with him without you knowing. Her behaviour is hypocritical and deceitful. Personally I see no issue with people being friends with exes on facebook, however your girlfriend went mental at you over it so she needs to practice what she preaches.

Her behaviour is pathetic and controlling and if it were me i'd be calling her out on it.