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Friend who committed suicide was bullied...

  • 20-08-2012 7:05pm
    #1
    guest4123
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6 ✭


    When I was 12, I was best pals with a guy in my class. We grew apart by the age of 15. Haven't seen him in decades, as I emigrated. I heard a few weeks ago that he had committed suicide due to severe mental pressure. Now I hear he was driven to suicide by his boss at work! I am livid just thinking about it. When we were friends, he endured a lot of bullying at school and we were both targetted when I accompanied him around town. Without going into any details on his place of work, is there any point in bringing this up with his employer? It is a state body. The reason I am inclined to believe the veracity of the story is that his boss showed up at the funeral and he was screamed at, slapped across the face, and told to leave. My friend left behind a wife and children. I want this low-life excuse for a man to suffer if this is true. Any advice?


Comments

  • #2
    Ellsbells
    Closed Accounts Posts: 985 ✭✭✭Ellsbells


    I am sorry for your loss. I was recently bereaved as well and was very annoyed with everyone for a while.

    This is not your fight. You don't know the details and you have not seen the deceased for years. It's ok to be angry but not to act on something you have heard third / fourth hand.


  • #3
    Violetwater22
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4 ✭Violetwater22


    I am really very sorry for your loss. Bullying is the lowest of the low. OP your friend is at peace now. My thoughts are with his family, you OP and all his friends.


  • #4
    jessiejam
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 778 ✭✭✭jessiejam


    So sorry for your loss op and that of his family.
    If what you say is true about his boss being a bully then surely others in his workplace have suffered too. I don't think its your business to get involved but maybe his family could look into this on his behalf when the dust has settled.
    It may not have been just his boss causing him all that mental anguish. There may have been other things going on in his life that you and his family don't know about.
    If the bullying in the past wasn't dealt with, this could have been an underlying issue too, and the boss could have just been the one to push him over the edge.
    We all have a limit.


  • #5
    guest4123
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6 ✭guest4123


    OP here. Thank you all for your replies. You are all right. I will just move on. The irrational side of me wants to contact his employer and demand an inquiry. Rational side knows that there is a lot more to the story and it's best left where it is right now.


  • #6
    She Who Dares Wins
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 50 ✭✭She Who Dares Wins


    I think if you haven't done so already you should send a letter to his family telling them some nice stories of what you remember of your time with the deceased (minus the bullying story). It might do them some good. If the boss was to blame in any large part then hopefully karma will bite him, hopefully he is rethinking his way of dealing with people as it is now.


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