"Wow! You Look Fab"

I Need The Sun

Ok I'm a bloke, (Should I be on here?).

Anyways, serious thread:

Scenario: At party, social get-together, with partner/wife.

Friend appears, looking fab..OK how cool uncool, pc or whatever, is it to say "Wow! You look fantastic".

OK I know theres lots of additional circumstances/add ons that can be added to the situation.

This is a def, not grabbing hands, no embraces, no cheek kisses, not being pissed or any of that malarkey. Just straight up, saying whats on the mind.

My guess is that its cool enough to just say it as it is, "Wow, you look fantastic", call it as it is. And I know its down to personality as well, and what one would consider to be the usual form of someone whom you know...

I hear the wives and partners saying easy enough "Wow you look fantastic"..but what about a bloke?

Keep stum, or tell it like it is?

I'm not hung up on this, just interested to hear your views.

riveratom

I Need The Sun wrote: »

Ok I'm a bloke, (Should I be on here?).

Anyways, serious thread:

Scenario: At party, social get-together, with partner/wife.

Friend appears, looking fab..OK how cool uncool, pc or whatever, is it to say "Wow! You look fantastic".

OK I know theres lots of additional circumstances/add ons that can be added to the situation.

This is a def, not grabbing hands, no embraces, no cheek kisses, not being pissed or any of that malarkey. Just straight up, saying whats on the mind.

My guess is that its cool enough to just say it as it is, "Wow, you look fantastic", call it as it is. And I know its down to personality as well, and what one would consider to be the usual form of someone whom you know...

I hear the wives and partners saying easy enough "Wow you look fantastic"..but what about a bloke?

Keep stum, or tell it like it is?

I'm not hung up on this, just interested to hear your views.

Dude. What?

I Need The Sun

@River atom...yeah I know it sounds crazy in some aspects. Interested to get an opinion...and expanding on it as well.

The partners of the same gender can say "Wow, you got a great pair of legs"...but if blokes say that, its probably, slap/perv time.

Tigger99

It's not that the scenario sounds crazy, its that your post doesn't make any sense.

Lyaiera

I think the question is "Is it ok for a man to complement someone on looking good?" To which the answer is, of course it is if you think the person looks good. If you want to give them an ego boost you're getting onto dangerous ground, because you have no idea what's going through their head and I'd leave that to someone who knows them very well.

However, if it's your little sister and she's a little insecure the answer is you damn well tell her she looks good every time you see her unless there's mascara running down her face.

Lia_lia

Wow, you can't write proper sentences!



(Am I doing it right?)

I Need The Sun

Tigger99 wrote: »

It's not that the scenario sounds crazy, its that your post doesn't make any sense.

Doesn't it?

I Need The Sun

Lia_lia wrote: »

Wow, you can't write proper sentences!



(Am I doing it right?)

Apologies, are you asking me? I dont know, are you doing it right? Maybe you are. Maybe you are poking fun. If so, no its not working, you're not doing it right.

frankz

I think your opeing post might have made more sense if you said the friend was also male.

(At least I think that is situation,
basically the whole post is just asking for views on men complimenting other men on how they look?

I would imagime most peoples view would be - do it, dont do it, whatever, next !! But I could be wrong)

Lia_lia

I Need The Sun wrote: »

Apologies, are you asking me? I dont know, are you doing it right? Maybe you are. Maybe you are poking fun. If so, no its not working, you're not doing it right.

I was kinda joking.

I still don't get your original post.

I Need The Sun

Apologies Lia Lia. Just how far can a person go on saying how totally fab someone looks without crossing over the 'hitting on' zone.

I know it's an unanswerable question and depending on circumstances.

Girls can say so many things to other girls and so on, that blokes just have to think about before they open their mouths.

Which I think can be a shame. Cos they end up saying nothing a lot of times.

Kooli

I totally got your first post, I don't get what the confusion is?

I think I'd be OK with a genuine and sincere comment like that from a male friend. Not a guy I hardly know, or a guy who says that to everyone.

A genuine compliment from a friend just feels different to receive than a come-on, or an objectifying comment. I assume that because it feels different to receive, it must also feel different to give? So I'd guess you'll know the difference.

I would avoid 'great legs' or anything like that though.

I Need The Sun

frankz wrote: »

I think your opeing post might have made more sense if you said the friend was also male.

(At least I think that is situation,
basically the whole post is just asking for views on men complimenting other men on how they look?

I would imagime most peoples view would be - do it, dont do it, whatever, next !! But I could be wrong)

Thanks Frankz. Again apologies for a somewhat ambiguous/confusing post.

I was talking about, in my experience, male commenting on female. But the same applies whatever the gender it is to whom one is attracted.

Wibbs

From the charter;

9) The Ladies Lounge is not a place for men to come and start threads requesting opinions on X, Y and Z from women. Women aren't of a single mind or opinion.

Kinda says it all folks.