Dating a married woman

LegacyUser

Just wondering what the general opinion is with dating married women?

I know on the face of it, it is wrong, on many levels.
But what about a married woman who says she doesn't love her husband anymore but yet they still live together in the same house, mostly for financial reasons she says.

It's the first time I've personally encountered this situation and, while I know there are many non-conventional ways of living these days for many different reasons, this doesn't sit well with me and I've said this several times.
We've only known each other a short time. It's not too heavy yet. I like her and she likes me. She made the first move. It's her first experience of falling for a woman; my first getting involved with a married woman.

It can't end well, can it?
What are the perils and pitfalls that lie ahead?
Should it end before it can really begin?
Are married women always bad news?

Aurongroove

you're justifying you're relationship by saying the married woman is unhappy and is only staying in the house for financial reasons.

but that dosn't excuse the fact that there is a married man in the equation. The only way a relationship with this woman can be OK is if the husband is mutually miserable and is also in the relationship because of the financial and domestic situation, and (most importantly) has AGREED to carry on the marriage as a open relationship i.e., that he is aware of and in agreement with letting his wife play away games and that she has granted him the same liberty.

padd b1975

Are there children in the family?

If yes, are they old enough to understand that their mother may be confused about her sexuality?

Shakti

I wouldn't be quick to judge anyone as there's a few quite reasonable reasons when it should be okay, does the husband know his wife is seeing another person?

stephen_n

You can call it dating, if that makes it seem nicer, but in effect the question should be, what are peoples opinions on having an affair with a married women, as that is what you are doing. Like anybody else having an affair you need to ask yourself, what you want from the relationship and more importantly can you handle the guilt that comes with it. It would seem from the fact that you are on here asking, that you can't really deal with that guilt. In the end of the day though no matter what advise your given, you are the one who will have to live with the consequences. This is not an issue of sexuality though, if this person was in a relationship with another women and was only staying for financial reasons, how in any way would that change it.

LegacyUser

You've all touched on issues I have and no, I dont take the situation at all lightly.

I know there are many non-conventional living arrangements around these days but no I personally havent talked to her husband to find out what his perspective is, I only have her word for that. But I couldn't ignore the fact that he was around and potentially could be very hurt.
I am not blasé about the situation. I said in my earlier post that I had reservations. In fact, because of these the relationship has ended.
I was interested in opening a thread on this type of situation and hear what others had to say. I certainly wasnt advocating dating a married woman. It may be the first time I've been involved in this type of scenario but I am sure it is not unique.
It is very interesting to read comments and opinions and I appreciate everyone taking the time.

azezil

The closest I've ever come to anything like this is when a friend of a friend bought me a drink then started kissing me, later found out he was married so I never went near him again. I personally wouldn't knowingly get involved with anyone married or even if they were just dating someone.

dreamer_ire

Have been there and in my experience it can't end well. The perils and pitfalls? One way or the other it's likely to end in a broken relationship, either yours or her marriage. It's hard to walk into a relationship knowing that that will be what happens. I was naive and hadn't thought it through... in short I would never do it again.