Friendships/Acquaintances after illness/acting the muppet when back on track

LegacyUser

Hi,thank you for looking at this thread and hoping some of you can offer some advice, while a small problem any advice would be appreciated

Similar to a poster below will be returning to college in a few weeks, having not seen many friends/acquaintances for the summer months. Being young and in college is admittedly an incredibly fun and fulfilling experience and am looking forward to getting back in action. There is only one area which causes some concern.

Last year during the college year became ill with a long-term illness. The first half was fine,after the Christmas break and confirmation everything went downhill. To put it bluntly, went from being a sociable and secure, to falling apart and not remembering every night out. Academic work aside, would not have been great company and feared overly relied on or dumped on people.Not remembering causes concerns as during the time was pretty down and did attempt to take my life,which some people are aware of, but thankfully it all seems a million miles away now.Also didn't know some of the people very well, so while have having friends have to literally babysit you and your drunken crying/advances/general eejitry is bad enough think with acquaintances it's just unacceptable. Was due to receive treatment which meant wouldn't have been returning for the academic year, this has been cancelled and am now going back,happily in good health and with more mature sensibilities.

So was wondering if anyone has advice on how to approach former friends/acquaintances/ hobbies. They're all sound people, and have apologised on numerous occasions, to the point of annoyance. While know may be best to forget and move on, giving up on people and having the craic shouldn't be done lightly, if ever. Have to acknowledge that this is a time when have to apply 'treat others as would want to be treated' to myself and not make a big deal about it.Any advice would be much appreciated, on how to apologise, build bridges and keep the head up!Thanks

looksee

learningcurve787 wrote: »

Hi,thank you for looking at this thread and hoping some of you can offer some advice, while a small problem any advice would be appreciated

Similar to a poster below will be returning to college in a few weeks, having not seen many friends/acquaintances for the summer months. Being young and in college is admittedly an incredibly fun and fulfilling experience and am looking forward to getting back in action. There is only one area which causes some concern.

Last year during the college year became ill with a long-term illness. The first half was fine,after the Christmas break and confirmation everything went downhill. To put it bluntly, went from being a sociable and secure, to falling apart and not remembering every night out. Academic work aside, would not have been great company and feared overly relied on or dumped on people.Not remembering causes concerns as during the time was pretty down and did attempt to take my life,which some people are aware of, but thankfully it all seems a million miles away now.Also didn't know some of the people very well, so while have having friends have to literally babysit you and your drunken crying/advances/general eejitry is bad enough think with acquaintances it's just unacceptable. Was due to receive treatment which meant wouldn't have been returning for the academic year, this has been cancelled and am now going back,happily in good health and with more mature sensibilities.

So was wondering if anyone has advice on how to approach former friends/acquaintances/ hobbies. They're all sound people, and have apologised on numerous occasions, to the point of annoyance. While know may be best to forget and move on, giving up on people and having the craic shouldn't be done lightly, if ever. Have to acknowledge that this is a time when have to apply 'treat others as would want to be treated' to myself and not make a big deal about it.Any advice would be much appreciated, on how to apologise, build bridges and keep the head up!Thanks

Put it behind you, you were not well, now you are able to cope.

Smile and be cheerful. When people as how you are feeling, say fine, I'm much better than I was, thank goodness, I was in a bit of a mess for a while. I really did appreciate your help and I'm looking forward to getting on with my studies. Or words to that effect.

You are evidently a miserable drunk (granted it might have been partly due to medication) so act with a bit of restraint and don't drink so much. Its not compulsory and its obviously not adding to the craic so just have a bit of sense, then you won't have to apologise again.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the advice looksee, very sensible suggestion. After reading back wanted to verify that the illness is physical, rather than mental; so once the core symptoms were dealt with any mood problems quickly adjusted.