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My coming out story [video]

bp1989 · 2012-08-15 02:35:08

This video appeared on the After Hours forum yesterday, but I think that thread lost the point of the video, quickly turning into an age old debate about gay rights. So for that reason I'm posting it here again. You're its intended audience, and maybe it will benefit at least some of you. Mods, if that's a problem, you…

15-08-2012 2:35am

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bp1989

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This video appeared on the After Hours forum yesterday, but I think that thread lost the point of the video, quickly turning into an age old debate about gay rights.

So for that reason I'm posting it here again. You're its intended audience, and maybe it will benefit at least some of you.

Mods, if that's a problem, you know what to do.

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#2 15-08-2012 2:48am

bleepp

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I agree they seemed to turn on the lad for no reason although he should have been easier on his dad..he dealt with it as best he could at the time i suppose.

I'm sure many here can relate with the guy especially with what he discusses at in the first half of the vid.

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#3 15-08-2012 8:48am

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@bleepp the OP is in the video.

It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.
Terry Pratchet

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#4 15-08-2012 4:20pm

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Exactly the same experiences for me. Everything up to coming out. Hope to change that soon. Thanks for posting

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#5 15-08-2012 5:57pm

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Nice video, thanks for sharing.

I can totally relate to 'really not wanting to be gay' for those years in and around secondary school. Seems ridicules now but I really didn't think you could "be gay" without being some sort of camp, flamboyant, Boy George type character. Terrifying thought for me.

I never really had access to LGBT groups when I would have needed them -- I spent years 16 to 21 in NE Donegal, and didn't go to college (self taught computer programmer). Would have been great to see videos and coming out stories like this at the time, just to blast away those silly misconceptions.

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#6 16-08-2012 11:24pm

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I found it intresting, nice to hear someones story and their experience, the whole not wanting to ba gay thing rang very true for me...... tahankfully am well past that, as said in the vid i like being gay now! To be honest I kinda avoid chatting about it with other gay friends, as sometimes it can get me down. As I more aless made a mess of it meself but thats another story.

In regards to your dad (is the op in the vid?) I dont think theres anything massively wrong with the dads reaction, yes its not how it would be in the brady bunch. But to be honest I think its fairly typical of an Irish father who as the op says is a little behind the times. Just cos he didnt react doesnt mean he didnt hear it. I think someone like that needs time to process and hopefully accept.

I orginally saw this in afterhours, 10 post in I coudnt read anymore... if fairness i find it hard to read anything in afterhours anymore. Never goin get an informed descussion in there!

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