There's this girl i know...

LegacyUser

Hi,

Hope people can give me some advice here as my head is wrecked trying to figure out what to do.

I've known this girl for a few years now, I've known her from when we used to work together but have managed to keep in touch over the years. Texts to each other now and again and regular fb messages.

When we worked together we got on great, always had a great laugh together. I'm really interested in her and have a feeling she might be interested in me too. As far as I know there was no flirting or anything going on but I'm not great at the flirting and awful at picking up signals!!!

This is how bad I am at it, I gave a girl a lend of my jackets once and walked her home in the pouring rain, she said she was afraid to walk home herself and wanted me to walk her home, for weeks my friends were telling me she was interested in me and I liked her too. Think she was flirting with me but couldn't tell. Anyway when we got to her front door, she gave me back my jacket and stood there, I shook her hand, thanked her for giving me my jacket back and walked off!!!

Anyway this girl I worked with has been away for a few years but she could be coming home soon, she applied for a visa, if she gets it her stay here will only be weeks if she doesn't she'll be home permanently in December.

I'm going to ask her to meet up when she's home but I don't know whether I should express my feelings to her then or wait and see if she gets her visa as I do really want her to enjoy the time she has at home and don't want her to have this running through her head if it's only a temporary stay, also thinking, we have a good friendship and maybe that's all she wants and by me saying something it will make things awkward and the friendship would suffer as a result.

Does anybody have any advice? Should I tell her how I feel, if she agrees to meet up with me? Should I wait and see if she gets her visa and then say something or should I just leave it and be happy that I've a good friendship with her?

All advice would be appreciated as I'm lost as to what to do. I've never been in this situation before but I have very strong feelings for her, when she left the job to move away, I'll admit I was fairly upset about it but didn't say anything to her then as didn't want her to have what I said running through her head as she was getting ready to go.

LegacyUser

I would definitely take the bull by the horns and tell her. What harm could come of it apart from awkwardness. Awkwardness never hurt anyone.

The question is how to handle it. Just give her room to let you down gently in case you're wrong that the feelings are reciprocated. You can't go around professing your undying love for every girl you meet.

Personally, I'd just tell her that you regret not saying this before she left but you've always had feelings for her but couldn't decide if it was friend zone or not.

supernature

Let her know how you feel. At least then you will know and stop tormenting yourself. If she likes you whey hey, you can work things out. If she does not, well you can smile, laugh, and then move on.