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Fallout

  • 09-08-2012 10:11pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    My two first cousins (both early 30s) fell out badly over 5 years ago, and now hate each others' guts, I'm stuck in the middle.
    The first girl doesn't care I'm still friendly with both of them, the second girl is highly offended that I haven't taken her side in the whole thing.
    I've been invited to stay at the first girls' house next week but am unsure whether to accept or decline due to the fallout it'd create. Know it's stupid but it would avoid a major amount of drama if I didn't go- but at the same time I resent having my life decisions dictated by someone else's issues! Advice please.


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  • #2
    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    kjhlhjk wrote: »
    I resent having my life decisions dictated by someone else's issues!

    I am also of the opinion that nobody has the right to dictate who you should and shouldn't see.
    Do as you feel and if anyone complains, remind them of the above.


  • #3
    daisybelle2008
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,403 ✭✭✭daisybelle2008


    kjhlhjk wrote: »
    My two first cousins (both early 30s) fell out badly over 5 years ago, and now hate each others' guts, I'm stuck in the middle.
    The first girl doesn't care I'm still friendly with both of them, the second girl is highly offended that I haven't taken her side in the whole thing.
    I've been invited to stay at the first girls' house next week but am unsure whether to accept or decline due to the fallout it'd create. Know it's stupid but it would avoid a major amount of drama if I didn't go- but at the same time I resent having my life decisions dictated by someone else's issues! Advice please.

    Your life decisions are not being dictated by someone else. Do exactly as you please and make NO apologies. It can only happen if you entertain the drama. Let it wash over you, don't apologise, explain and especially every DISCUSS their arguement with either of them. That way they can't drag you into it.


  • #4
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 18,749 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    ah haer, just tell the 2nd one to get a grip!!

    seriously, she doesnt want to talk to no.1, then fine she doesnt have to. tell her its not your business who she talks to and its not her business who you talk to.
    dont even get into a conversation with her about it.


  • #5
    annoyed_grunt
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9 ✭annoyed_grunt


    I agree with the last post, seriously if the 2nd girl is really your friend she'll get over it.

    Had a similar situation a while back with a friend and his ex. I was good friends with both since secondary school and he got odd with me for talking to her on a night out.

    I told him I wasn't taking sides and knew her first anyway. He didn't really like it but later told me he appreciated that I was up front with him.

    Anyway as you said in the OP it's your life so why let someone else run it for you?


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