Women and nasty comments

Moonflower222

I'm in my early twenties and naturally thin. I was doing a bit of clothes shopping today, thought it would give me a bit of a confidence boost. I passed two girls who looked me up and down and sneered "It must be awful having a body like a little boy". Sticks and stones, but to be honest it really took the wind out of my sails. I put the clothes back and went home. Why do some women feel the need to be so critical of other women?

sashafierce

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WhiteRose90

As hard as it is, I say do try and ignore them. If they are so petty that they'll try and belittle someone to make themselves feel better then they are clearly not at all happy in their own skin. I say this as a skinny person myself who has gotten comments and weird looks. I used to be a size 12-14, now a 6-8 though that's down to my metabolism after changing a few years ago(I'm 21). Just try and stay positive and ignore petty people like that.

Ellsbells

You should have retorted 'well it's better than looking like the Michelin man'...

Pure jealousy - ignore these idiots.

ABajaninCork

They just wish they were like you. Jealous b1tches...

Moonflower222

Thanks so much, I really do feel a lot better now Life is too short to dwell on negative comments. I'm going to go shopping tomorrow.

ABajaninCork

Good girl! Don't let them get you down...

judgefudge

Umm... While I do agree that they sound like jealous spiteful comments, I can't agree that this is "typical women". I for one would never comment on another women's weight/appearance, genuinely. I've also heard far more judgemental things been said about women (particularly overweight women) by male friends of mine.

Nastiness is not exclusive to one sex.

edellc

I have to agree with judgeface, this is not a typical woman's comment, it sounds more like a teenage girls comment and there is a big big difference between a woman and a girl.

I have also heard much worse said about women by men so nasty comments are not confined to the fairer sex.

OP if you are really going to let some randomers dictate your day out shopping then I think you need to look at you and how your confidence and self awareness is.

People pass comment all the time on others but its up to you whether you let it effect you or not, if a family member or close friend say something nasty then I would be more inclined to be offended but some randomer why bother once you have walked passed them are you going to see them again...No, so why let them affect you in such a way

Ellsbells

Oh it's not a typical woman's attitude - those people have no manners or class.

LegacyUser

Out of all the occasional catty comments I have received in the streets from strangers the majority have been from women. I think if you posted in the ladies lounge you would find that it is usual and lots of women who look anyway different whether it be tall, small, big, thin, boyish, girly etc.. are on the receiving end of this behavior. The best thing to do is walk away with your head held high and don't let them stop you from doing what you want! The women who make these comments are bitter and angry and are so insecure they are trying to draw attention away from themselves. Bullies are jealous of their victims.

blacklilly

OP there is no reason for these so called women to make these comments other than they are lacking self esteem and wanted to put someone down. They are not worth thinking about. I could never understand someone passing judgment on someones looks, we have absolutely no control over how we look (in general) forget about them.

christ on a bike!

Same thing here, nearly most nights out I would hear some woman, obviously a wagon, without knowing me or my name just say something like "OMG, you are sooooooooooo f*cking skinny, look at your arms"

Lately I've realised that it is kind of a similar complaint from women getting sleazed at in bars. Similar because while it does happen, and often most nights, it is only a minority. And when you are milling around literally thousands of people it is a big minority but, as is sadly quite usual, it is the vocal minority that you hear, and that sticks in your mind.

The trick is to remember the overwhelming majority who are just bang on, like you, your mates and most of the rest of us

Moonflower222

Oh gosh, I never meant to imply that women are the exclusive culprits of nasty comments. I'm a woman myself I know both men and women can be critical. I'm not made of glass, I can usually brush off the "skinny bitch" comments. I simply snapped today, they were two grown women, thus I expected better of them. Both men and women can be cruel about weight. Although it can be rather funny, the other day a worried elderly couple took me by the elbows in case I "blew under the train"

BarackPyjama

It's not exclusive to gender. Some people are just dragged up instead of raised properly and they grow up to be a$$holes like their parents. OP - honestly - the reason you don't understand it is because you're not like them and wouldn't do that to someone. You should feel very grateful for that!

Esoteric_

To be honest, it's just nasty, spiteful people who are most likely jealous that you have a healthy figure (because I'm assuming you're not anorexic :pac: ).

I've noticed that very thin women seem to get a lot more comments than chubby women (I'm a size 14, so I fall into the latter category). I think it's because people are raised to believe that it's really rude to call somebody fat, but not thin.

It's just jealousy, pure and simple.

And while you're shopping today, remind yourself that because you're thin, you can fit into anything you want, and if you want to look more curvy, you can get clothes fitted in a way to do that for you, whereas women like those making nasty comments can do nothing to hide their lumps and bumps and most likely can NOT fit into all the lovely clothes that you can!

jimmycrackcorm

Op, you've been paid a compliment. Learn to recognise them.

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Katgurl

LyndamcL is 100% right there. Im chubby. My sister is 6ft and size 10, legs up to her neck. People always feel entitled to tell me I've a great figure and that she's too skinny and men don't like it. Absolute rubbish. Somehow amidst all the body acceptance in recent years of curvier women it has got mixed up with insulting slim women.

My sister is not too skinny at all, she looks great and I hate when people make these comments. Some women who carry any weight seem to resent that they have been given this cross to bear. I lost my temper one day in frustration with one particulaely opinionated overweight friend and spat out "stop saying horrible things about my sister, she can't help the way she is, stop implying she's starving herself, she is the way she is and she has the same body hang ups the rest of us have". My friend looked stunned and said "how can she have hang ups? She's skinny".

Which I thought summed it all up.

snafuk35

Moonflower222 wrote: »

I'm in my early twenties and naturally thin. I was doing a bit of clothes shopping today, thought it would give me a bit of a confidence boost. I passed two girls who looked me up and down and sneered "It must be awful having a body like a little boy". Sticks and stones, but to be honest it really took the wind out of my sails. I put the clothes back and went home. Why do some women feel the need to be so critical of other women?

They're pathetic. Why worry what they say?