rejection

tyw3724e

Hi,

I sort of rejected this guy that I shifted a few times, by not being exactly being friendly to him as I thought he wasnt really that bothered with me as he hadnt asked me to spend any time with him. As soon as I started ignoring him, he seemed very down hearted,he wouldnt even look at me. I hadnt seen him for 2 months due to school so I decieded to text him him in a very casual way. So we were talking for a few days and seemed we were getting on great, so I ask him would he be at a big local event, he completly ignored my question and just text about something from earlier, i replied back and now he hasnt contacted me since, its been three week!!!!

Piliger

Hi OP. Well .... let's face it ... what goes around comes around.

If you want to cut out all of the BS and uncertainty, and the will-he won't-he BS that gets in the way of decent people getting together then CALL him and ask him! instead of this txting thing that does no one any good and leaves everyone unhappy.

That's my two cents.

tyw3724e

i think calling and asking what the story is, is a bit on the desperate side

Piliger

What exactly does ' desperate' mean ? and why is it a bad thing ?

In my view life is about getting out and living our lives, saying what we mean and doing our best to get what we want and need.

If you like this guy then reach out and grab him ! who cares if someone thinks you're desperate ! Wall flowers never get what they want ... they get what others decide they want. If he says no ... so be it ... but at least you know you tried.

tyw3724e

cud anyone else give me advice, im late teens, its nothing too serious yet

Stavro Mueller

Well, you could send him a text I guess but it doesn't look too promising really. He may not be interested any more, he might have met someone else or he might be wary of getting hurt again. After all, you did reject him previously and didn't handle it very sensitively.

My opinion is that you can't resolve this from the keypad of your phone. Texting is a real double-edged sword. It's both a fantastic means of communicating and a dreadful one. Texting hasn't solved this. The only way you have a chance is if you an actual conversation with him. If not over the phone, then in person.

Big Bag of Chips

You're messing with his head and he doesn't want the trouble.

You shifted him.. then decided you'd stop bring friendly and started ignoring him. Then texted him again and sort of asked about going somewhere, and he backed off.

Maybe he thinks you just want him around when you have no one better to hang around with. Maybe he thinks you are playing some game with him where you prove to yourself you can have him, and then just drop him again.

Or maybe he just doesn't want to shift you again.

You're choices are ask him - However you kids go about that these days! Or, say nothing and sit around guessing what he's thinking.