How do you chill the heck out?

LegacyUser

I don’t even really know why im posting here, or what kind of response to expect. But im a bit of a self-destruct bunny.

Bit of background here, I have just started seeing a guy. He’s awesome!! We get on so well, he’s a real sweetie, makes me laugh, beautiful, the perfect guy. But I over think everything and when he hasn’t text me it's a case of ‘’oh my gosh he’s not text he’s not interested’’. This week he’s a been a bit distant with me, not arranging to meet up etc. In reality it's probably down to the fact that the both of us have activities every evening, but in my head it got to the point of me super over analysing every single thing and coming up with my own answer that he clearly wasn’t interested.

The funny thing is that he’s one of the most honest and upfront people I have ever met. He tells it exactly like it is, there’s no point trying to read between the lines, there are none with him. it is what it is. So clearly this has all been in my head.

We were out the weekend, at different parties and I ended up at his. I don’t remember much of the conversation but I threw a bit of a wobbly at him. im so embarrassed reading this even now. But yeah, I was a bit mad, asking him why wasn’t he interested, had he someone else on the go etc. He was like ‘’am, what are you talking about’’

He managed to shut me up and I stayed over. He then stayed with me most of the day Sunday and text me when he got home to arrange to meet up again.

So clearly he’s not put off by my stupid behaviour. How do I stop myself doing it? I'm still a bit wary of the weekend, and know that he’s probably not too impressed so im gonna have to be on my best behaviour but how do I learn to just cool it and stop worrying?

should I bring it up with him when I see him? I asked him yesterday if I ruined it and he said no, I was a bit psycho though.

The last 2 guys I dated ended the same way, I overanalyzed everything and got myself into a tizzy.

Any advice?

Ellsbells

Yeah stop drinking so much and stop questioning him. If someone started that at a start of a relationship I would have to wonder how it would end up further in. Don't be that needy girl...

LegacyUser

Sometimes we can end up developing strategies to help us cope with the world. Overthinking is one of them, I often overthink things because I think by looking at all angles I can spot and stop the problem before it becomes one. I read some websites that discuss ways in which to overcome it by typing stopping anxiety into google! It ain't gonna stop by saying 'stop doing it, if things were that easy there would be such thing as depression etc.