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Unsure of sexual orientation

  • 02-08-2012 3:38pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,

    Well Im 19 and Im a bit confused.

    I want to try sex with another man. I would sometimes masturbate to gay porn, but as soon as I ejaculate I find it repulsive. I would often see men on the street and find them physically attractive. I have no emotional attraction to men, just see them as a once off thing.

    I am also physically attracted to women. I always see women that I like. I also watch straight porn (but have higher standards/harder to find any good stuff) However, If I originally found them attractive that doesnt change if I masturbate. I am also emotionally attracted to women, see them as a possible girlfriend.

    I have never actually slept with either.


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  • #2
    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    We have an LGBT forum where you can still post unregged.
    Would you prefer I move this thread there?

    As for your OP, perhaps you're Bi.
    At 19, you still have plenty of time to work it out and I would suggest that you just go with what you feel for now and see where it leads.
    No need to add extra pressure by trying to pigeon hole yourself.


  • #3
    Roisy7
    Closed Accounts Posts: 548 ✭✭✭Roisy7


    You're still very young, so I wouldn't worry about it. There's no need to label yourself until you feel good and ready.

    Attraction to members of the same sex is common, far more common than people admit, especially for men. While a lot of girls will freely admit to having experimented, many men won't, and far, far, far more than you would think have.

    Don't worry about what you get off to, it's in your head, and you should never self-censor your thoughts.

    So OP, you might be gay, straight or bi but there's no need to label yourself just yet. Take your time, enjoy life, and whatever happens, happens :)


  • #4
    Dave!
    Closed Accounts Posts: 27,857 ✭✭✭✭Dave!


    I'm not sure there's ever a "need" to label yourself tbh. Just stay safe and enjoy yourself. You'll eventually gravitate towards someone that you want to have a relationship with. It's not as if, because you haven't defined yourself as straight or gay, you'll be unable to have a relationship with someone.

    I suppose it's easier said than done, there's always gonna be a societal pressure to be one thing or the other, but in theory anyway you should just go with what feels right.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    hey,
    the disgust associated after you masterbate is because you have been told it is wrong and you feel guilty. Lots of people go through this. Even straight guys who come from religious backgrounds There is a good possibility that you are bisexual. This is obviously a difficult notion to get around. maybe try doiung some online research and maybe read some stories of guys who have gone through similar things.
    Remember there is nothing wrong with being gay or bisexual, the only thing that is wrong is people telling you that you are somehow bad for being that way. Try and take your time to get your head around it and try chatting to lads in similar situations who have gone through it. they might relate to you better.


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