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overcoming childhood sexual abuse and reaching full potential as a person

  • 31-07-2012 11:15pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi all, I'll make this as short as possible, and I would like replies preferably from people who have gone through similar situations, to be clear, those who have suffered abuse themselves. Please do not lock this thread or send me on to helplines etc. I am 25, female, abused as a child, has caused a tremendous amount of psychological damage. I have gone for counselling and other help, and it has gotten my life to a point where I do not suffer from depressive/self-harm stages anymore, I am well functioning, able to hold down a job, and for the most part, quite a happy person which is wonderful, as I never thought it was possible. There are a few aspects where I think it is holding me back however, this is where I am looking for responses from others. Unfortunately I have to live with the fact that it has happened, and everything that comes with it in the aftermath, which is a terrible horrendous load of baggage that unfortunately I feel I cannot face just right now in my life. To be honest, the counselling has brought me so far that I think I could continue most of my life without having to explore it, go into it any further and leave it be, because I can not expell it from me altogether, it can never change the past.
    The long and the short of it is, the level of pain that it has caused me has left such a mark, I wonder can I ever reach my full potential, as if it had not happened to me? I am so terrified of going back to counselling that it will all come up again and I wont be able to survive it a second time, I barely got through the first. Has anyone gone through this? Are they living full lives? I just wish I was normal, it is like an endless uphill struggle. Thanks for reading, sorry, I didn't mean for it to get so long.


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  • #2
    pheasant tail
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 942 ✭✭✭pheasant tail


    ohsuremenerves wrote: »
    Unfortunately I have to live with the fact that it has happened, and everything that comes with it in the aftermath, which is a terrible horrendous load of baggage that unfortunately I feel I cannot face just right now in my life. .

    Well OP,unfortunately you can never change what happened in the past but you need to try and not carry this around with you,theres a very good skilll used in DBT called 'Radical Acceptance',its quite a long process but really does work and it is all done within,maybe ask your counsellor for more information on it,all the best :)


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