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Desperate State

  • 23-07-2012 9:36pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I could do with some clear headed views. I'm quite distraught right now as I have had depression for a number of years but have had a handle on it. Though it would rear it's ugly head now and then my partner would be there for me and i could work through it. I'm now feeling withdrawn from my partner for various reasons. And the darkness is harder to deal with. The problem is I don't want to go back to the way i was, i feel a failure to go back to my doc and i'm worried about divulging my darkest thoughts. It's a desperate feeling. I am beginning to cry as I post this, can't believe I'm here again.


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  • #2
    Leviosa
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7 ✭Leviosa


    Sorry to hear you're feeling so low but I would not see it as failing by returning to your doctor. You just need a bit of help to get back to where you were, and if going to your doctor gets you back there then that is success.


  • #3
    looksee
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    In the sausage processing machine that is GPs surgeries, I don't think the GP will be interested in your darkest thoughts. All you need say is that, while you have been coping for ages you now feel that you are in need of a bit of support to get back on track. He will either give you, or adjust, medication, or suggest counselling. And then say 'next please' and give no further thought to you! I don't mean that unkindly, simply that he will not be thinking about your being a failure or otherwise.

    You know you are not a failure, you have coped with chemical imbalances in your brain before, and you will continue to do so. If you had an issue with, say, levels of something in your blood you would get medication and not think twice about it. Depression isn't something to feel guilty or anxious about, you know that really, you have been there before. Get some help and get it sorted.

    Whether you consider having counselling is up to you, maybe you don't need it at the moment. You have analysed your thoughts and realised that this is very likely a temporary glitch. With a bit of extra support from medication and your partner, and your own determination you will haul yourself out as you have done before.

    Talk to your partner, you don't have to say that you feel distant from them, just that you are feeling a bit isolated in yourself; you seem to have a loving and supportive partner, don't let your mind play tricks on you, get back on the level before trying to deal with any issues between you.


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