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  • 23-07-2012 10:10am
    #1
    AugMom
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8 ✭


    Hi everyone,
    ive been in an on/off relationship for over 3 years with the father of my youngest. he is the one who is always dumping me , saying he has commitment issues/relationship issues - but then after some time he comes back to me declaring his undying love and we get back together , which only lasts about a week! Its been getting worse lately, and now he has told me that we need closure on this and he is going out on a date with somebody from work.
    i am devastated and heartbroken. cant stop thinking about it. he is the love of my life how can i ever cope with this :-(


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  • #2
    daisybelle2008
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,403 ✭✭✭daisybelle2008


    Oh God I know this feels awful for you. But please don't believe any more that he is the 'love of your life'. This kind of a roller coaster relationship if very damaging to your self esteem.
    No one deserves to be the love of your life that keeps dumping you.
    I bet you have shed a lot of tears over this guy but please believe that a nice secure relationship is a lost cause and that you need to reclaim your heart and your happiness for yourself.
    You can't trust him with it and believe me someone you can't trust does not deserve to be the love of your life.

    It is hard but really you are being spared, give him your blessing to go mess someone elses head up with his nonsense. Please believe that being on your own would be a lot more peaceful that the drama and pain that comes with dealing with him.


  • #3
    Stavro Mueller
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,673 ✭✭✭Stavro Mueller


    Agree with everything Daisybelle said. The first thing I thought when I read it was that he's doing you a big favour by going on a date with someone else. You are not the love of his life. You won't want to hear this of course but I hope this new relationship means he won't be coming back to you.

    The breaking up/reuniting/breaking up cycle has been doing you absolutely no favours. It's harming you greatly on two fronts. It's chipping away at your self-esteem. It's also stopping you from moving on. That's why you've taken to posting here. His going on a date with someone else has broken this cycle and caused you to face into the scenario you should've faced into the first time he broke up with you.


  • #4
    snafuk35
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 833 ✭✭✭snafuk35


    AugMom wrote: »
    Hi everyone,
    ive been in an on/off relationship for over 3 years with the father of my youngest. he is the one who is always dumping me , saying he has commitment issues/relationship issues - but then after some time he comes back to me declaring his undying love and we get back together , which only lasts about a week! Its been getting worse lately, and now he has told me that we need closure on this and he is going out on a date with somebody from work.
    i am devastated and heartbroken. cant stop thinking about it. he is the love of my life how can i ever cope with this :-(

    You know what he is like and yet you let him come back and do the same thing again and again and again.
    So you know what the answer is.
    Say no to him.
    Stand up for yourself.


  • #5
    AugMom
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8 ✭AugMom


    thank you for the replies. you are all right. what makes it all the harder is that a couple of weeks ago, he came back saying he didnt want to lose me and that he had demons in his head that he wanted to sort out. he told me there would never be anyone else but me and that my loyalthy to him meant everything. he told me i was special etc. was all over me for about a week and then dumped me again saying he just couldnt commit. this all happened before i was due to go to a wedding so im thinking he just didnt want me meeting anyone else.
    i feel so betrayed by him, after years of putting up with hell from him and putting up with things nobody should put up with, he goes and tells me hes going on a date with somebody from work.
    he never put one bit of effort into our relationship, its a real kick in the guts...


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