please please help

alacandra

im a 40 yo army guy - this is a genuine request for advice- i have always been focused on my career and now want to do what i have never done experience women sexualy- i want to be with all sizes of women and all ages (not Kids or teenagers) i want to try different things and i am very open minded. i am hygenic and believe in safety at all times. i was brought up to treat ladies with respect and politness. i wouldnt have the nerve to ask a lady in a pub - so i feel realy stuck- please dont post silly smart answers but genuine advice i would apreciate of places to go that may be easier for a man not to have to make the first move. im fit and not bad looking. i wouldnt use brotels as i would never support human trafficking. im not a pervert or anything like that just someone whos starting late and dying to experiment so please please help ladies and gents and thanks for your time.

Esoteric_

alacandra wrote: »

im a 40 yo army guy - this is a genuine request for advice- i have always been focused on my career and now want to do what i have never done experience women sexualy- i want to be with all sizes of women and all ages (not Kids or teenagers) i want to try different things and i am very open minded. i am hygenic and believe in safety at all times. i was brought up to treat ladies with respect and politness. i wouldnt have the nerve to ask a lady in a pub - so i feel realy stuck- please dont post silly smart answers but genuine advice i would apreciate of places to go that may be easier for a man not to have to make the first move. im fit and not bad looking. i wouldnt use brotels as i would never support human trafficking. im not a pervert or anything like that just someone whos starting late and dying to experiment so please please help ladies and gents and thanks for your time.

Just to be clear, what you're looking for is to sleep around a bit to experience a varied sex life? I'm just making sure I'm clear on that.

If that's what you're looking for, there's no need to even contemplate using brothels! :pac: Just join a dating site like POF or OKC and specify on your 'looking for' section on your profile that you're looking for intimate encounters or whatever other similar option is available.

I mean, you could try it on in a bar, but there's every chance in bars that the woman would have no intentions of having a one night stand or whatever, so I'd probably recomment a dating site as long as you specify what you're looking for.

dannyc31

this seems odd to me. on the one hand what were you doing for the last 20years? i know you said focusing on your career but we dont focus on our careers 24/7 and in your case 24/7 for the past 20 odd years. this just seems odd to me that there was no period along the way if you were attracted to women you wouldnt of went out with your mates and tried to start a few flings with some girls.

also you seem to be contradicting yourself, on the one hand you sound like a player saying you want to experiment with lots of different shapes and sizes of women sexually but yet you say you were brought up to treat women with respect, well the two dont really go together so you seem a bit torn in 2 directions here. players do not respect women on an equal level to themselves even if they try to justify to themselves & others that they do. i feel you're not sure you know what you want probably because you have'nt had it yet. your biology is telling you to sleep with lots and lots of women because thats how men are designed but your cultural up bringing has thought you to respect women so you're better to try find one nice girl and gradually get a sex life with her. i think you're past the stage of being a player and it doesnt seem like its you in any case.

otherwise the advice about using those websites is good and might be a place to start until you figure what it is you really want.

snafuk35

alacandra wrote: »

im a 40 yo army guy - this is a genuine request for advice- i have always been focused on my career and now want to do what i have never done experience women sexualy- i want to be with all sizes of women and all ages (not Kids or teenagers) i want to try different things and i am very open minded. i am hygenic and believe in safety at all times. i was brought up to treat ladies with respect and politness. i wouldnt have the nerve to ask a lady in a pub - so i feel realy stuck- please dont post silly smart answers but genuine advice i would apreciate of places to go that may be easier for a man not to have to make the first move. im fit and not bad looking. i wouldnt use brotels as i would never support human trafficking. im not a pervert or anything like that just someone whos starting late and dying to experiment so please please help ladies and gents and thanks for your time.

If you see a beautiful woman anywhere you go you should just go up to her and chat her up. You aren't going to get anywhere unless you are proactive. It's as simple as that.
You are a military man so you have presumeably trained to kill people and if you are 40 I would presume you are a sergeant or something who is charge of other soldiers and I would imagine you have served on UN duty if you are in the Irish Army and if you are in the American or British forces you have actually been in a war.
Now how hard could approaching women be compared to that?
I presume military life is full of aggressive macho people and lots of bad language.
So if a woman in a pub tells you to f*ck off how is that going to hurt?
You are scared of rejection and humiliation isn't that it?
You feel lonely and humiliated now don't you without women in your life so use that to motivate you find someone.
You have to overcome your fear and go for it.
Women aren't armed with machine guns and you aren't going to lose a leg or die in agony if a girl rejects you.

Merkin

So you've never had any sexual experience yet you love nothing more than the following?

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2056703584

:rolleyes:

Ickle Magoo

OP banned for trolling - feel free to argue your case in the DRP.

Merkin, to save being actioned yourself, please read THIS part of the charter clearly stickied at the top of the forum.

Cheers.

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