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Ex has a new bf, need advice.

  • 20-07-2012 5:03pm
    #1
    den87
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 531 ✭✭✭


    Hey all, just looking for a bit of advice as my head is a mess.

    First off me and my ex work together in a close enough area, we were together for about 4.5 years and worked together for that time also. We broke up last August as she wanted some time apart and didn't want a relationship.

    Fast forward to May of this year and she has a new bf, I've seen them together a few times and she told me about them straight out to be fair.

    I hold no grudge and am not bitter about it, but my problem is I can't stop thinking about her and what she's up to with him, doing all the stuff we used to. Not a day goes by when I don't think about her, probably not helped by the fact I see her most days at work. I don't want to get back with her as it wouldn't work, yet I still think of all the good times we had together. We chat sometimes in work, nothing too serious, just maybe once a week, sometimes twice.

    How do I get over this? Should I still feel this way nearly a year later? How do I stop thinking this way?


Comments

  • #2
    Lorna123
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,116 ✭✭✭Lorna123


    This is very difficult. You obviously still have strong feelings for her. It is only natural. The only way to get over this is to find a new g/f yourself. If you don't have someone to think about you are naturally going to fall back to thinking about what you had when with this girl. I know it is not that easy to just go out and get someone whom you fancy. You just have to keep on trying and in the trying you won't have time to think about what your g/f is up to. Keep busy, if you can. I know OP that what I have said is easier said than done. It all requires work and effort and if you are putting your energies into something other than thinking about your past then you will feel a lot better. Wishing you well OP, this is very difficult and I do understand it. My heart goes out to you. I hope you can move on soon.


  • #3
    den87
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 531 ✭✭✭den87


    Thanks Lorna, haven't really been trying to find anyone lately, but I see what you mean.

    One of the worst things is that, with some people that I've talked to about this, very few understand, which is frustrating as most of them just say "era, get on with it"


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