Dnt see myself committing

Hiddenuser

This is for the lads out there is relationships.

Im with this girl going on one year now and wondering should i know by know should i committ.

At the moment im 28 and relatively happy with her but im not over the moon happy for a few reasons.

My mates have had relationships broke up etc and some got back etc

The funny thing is im worries more abt the possibilty of not finding someone else rather than the girl im with.

Thats aint good is it!

P. Breathnach

Do you mean that you are with her because you haven't sound somebody who is more to your liking?

If that's what it is, let her go and give her a chance to find somebody who might be more into her. Then go seeking the girl of your dreams.

The Princess Bride

Hiddenuser wrote: »

..... going on one year now and wondering should i know by know should i committ.
......relatively happy with her but im not over the moon happy

Thats aint good is it!

No-it ain't!

Woman here- I'd hate to be with a man,who after a year wasn't over the moon happy with me.
Life's too short- find somebody whom you can be over the moon happy with,and let this lady do likewise.

Hiddenuser

No, i am certainly not actively seeking an upgrade/ other partner.

This is an aged old question really, settle with what tou have or keep moving on. I know this somew blunt, but many guys do find them selves in this situation.

Ur comment is a bit off the cuff can i ask why your concern seems to rest soley with the girl?

I understand ur point to a degree but assume she is perfectly happy.

P. Breathnach wrote: »

Do you mean that you are with her because you haven't sound somebody who is more to your liking?

If that's what it is, let her go and give her a chance to find somebody who might be more into her. Then go seeking the girl of your dreams.

Hiddenuser

If every good relationship was over the moon happy im sure divorce rates would not be rising oh so much!

Some may see this as a pesimistic attitude i see it as a realist. Not all good relationships are amazing and at some stage there is a settling point weather to do with lowing ones expectations on the ideal partner or for women getting older and worried abt having babies.

I havent seen this side discussed here.

Are there lads here that have settled and how is it going???

Better go 1.30 am and need some sex before sleep:)

msthe80s wrote: »

Hiddenuser wrote: »

..... going on one year now and wondering should i know by know should i committ.
......relatively happy with her but im not over the moon happy

Thats aint good is it!

No-it ain't!

Woman here- I'd hate to be with a man,who after a year wasn't over the moon happy with me.
Life's too short- find somebody whom you can be over the moon happy with,and let this lady do likewise.

Toast4532

If you aren't happy in the relationship/with your girlfriend you'd be better off breaking up now and letting her get over you and finding someone else who will be happy with her.

No point staying with her if you are unhappy can't commit. What if in two or three years time you are still together and she wants marriage, to buy a house etc? Or if she told you tomorrow she's pregnant? What then?

If you were out and about and found a girl you thought was better than your current girlfriend in looks, personality, job, fitness etc, would you leave your current gf if the new girl showed any interest in you?

Hiddenuser wrote: »

Better go 1.30 am and need some sex before sleep:)

Sounds like your g/f would be better off without a boyfriend like you if the quote is anything to go by.

LegacyUser

After a year with your girlfriend do you think your single friends are having a better time than you or all are all your friends single?
When you meet them do you hear nothing but how great there sex lives are ect?
At 28 where do you see yourself in the next 3 -5 years? Do you want to buy a home, get married and have a family?
Are you just going out with your girlfriend because it is easier than being single?
All relationships can go though a bad period but at this stage you need to decide to say with this girl or to end this relationship. It is unfair to stay with your girlfriend unless you believe you have a long term future. I have seen a number of girls I know waiting for there boyfriends to move on a relationship. Some of these girls spend years with the one man and then asked when are we getting married or having kids to be told I am not interested in this.
You don't sound happy with this relationship. If this is the case you need to end this relationship as your girlfriend deserves to meet someone else.

MrScootch

Hiddenuser wrote: »

Better go 1.30 am and need some sex before sleep:)

Dead funny in this context!
I don't know if there's a settling point, but 28 is a bit early isn't it? And if you're a guy you can easily get away with dating a younger burd so there's plenty of choice.
Don't worry about finding someone new or comparing relationships, there's always someone new, that takes care of itself.

Are you happy in this relationship or not, that's the only question you need to answer. If you're not, life's short, not a rehearsal etc. etc.

Taltos

OP - we are closing your thread.

Please note as per the terms of our Charter:
Txtspk is not allowed.
Also this is not a discussion forum, if you want to discuss the merits of divorce or staying with someone out of fear of being alone in general then please try one of the other forums.

If you want some serious advice specific to your relationship then RI is the right place, but signing off that you are off to get some sex before sleep with someone you have "settled" for leads me to believe that RI just isn't the forum for this topic.

Taltos