Advice please

edwood

I was with my girl last night and we've been seeing each other for two weeks or so. And I said to her "this summer has been really good since I met you, we should make the most of it for July and August" or along those lines.

And she ended up being off with me. And after she explained why she was upset it turned out she thought I just wanted her for the summer and it came across to her that I would end it in August when i said its gonna be a great summer..

Now what i really meant was come September between college etc we wouldn't see each other as much as we do now. And after I explained the situation that i was sticking around and wasn't going to end it in August, things went back on track. I wanted to ask other board users, do you think I worded that wrong and it was understandable to think that I as going to end it after the summer? Any advice would be great.

Beetlebum

Advice about what though? She misinterpreted something you said, you explained what you actually meant, she understood and all is sweet once again.

For the record, the way you phrased it did make it sound a little bit like you might end in after summer but that would obviously be a ridiculous thing to say even if it were true.

Simple crossed wires that you easily untangled. Total non issue.

Revand

When you say you wanted to make the most of it for july and august...yeah that sounds as if you were making an ultimatum...basically if you think youll be seeing less of each other when september comes around. Dont make an issue of it until the time comes around, enjoy the july, Aug part then you can issue your concerns to her about collgege..etc and the possibility of being around one another yet. If your jumping the gun to early, this most likely isnt what she wants to hear.. be with her now..worry wots around the corner when your there...

Lorna123

edwood wrote: »

I was with my girl last night and we've been seeing each other for two weeks or so. And I said to her "this summer has been really good since I met you, we should make the most of it for July and August" or along those lines.

And she ended up being off with me. And after she explained why she was upset it turned out she thought I just wanted her for the summer and it came across to her that I would end it in August when i said its gonna be a great summer..

Now what i really meant was come September between college etc we wouldn't see each other as much as we do now. And after I explained the situation that i was sticking around and wasn't going to end it in August, things went back on track. I wanted to ask other board users, do you think I worded that wrong and it was understandable to think that I as going to end it after the summer? Any advice would be great.

No, I don't think you worded it wrongly at all. I am amazed that your g/f picked you up wrong. I would know that you meant that July and August were the Summer months and that is why you mentioned them and come September you would be talking about the Winter. That is what I would take out of it. There is no accounting for what others might think.

Piliger

Hi OP.

What I think comes out of your post is not that you did anything wrong but that you did it RIGHT, in that you kept talking long enough to clarify things !

Too many people stop talking when one gets the hump ... instead of persevering straight away. Misunderstanding fester and fester and even when clarified, the pain often lingers and sometimes leads to a break up down the line.

Lesson ? Keep talking. Well done.