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  • 08-07-2012 6:44pm
    #1
    newco306
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4 ✭


    Is it natural that my girlfriends ex stay my girlfriends and mine house often? They have kid together. He come to stay my house for see his kid. I would be happy if his ex take his son to his home for spending time each other than stay my and gf house because I feels too uncomfortable and I have told my girlfriend about my feeling and she wont listen my feelings. I do love her a lot. What should I do about that?


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  • #2
    Pa Dee
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 279 ✭✭Pa Dee


    newco306 wrote: »
    Is it natural that my girlfriends ex stay my girlfriends and mine house often? They have kid together. He come to stay my house for see his kid. I would be happy if his ex take his son to his home for spending time each other than stay my and gf house because I feels too uncomfortable and I have told my girlfriend about my feeling and she wont listen my feelings. I do love her a lot. What should I do about that?
    Crazy situation. End it


  • #3
    Ella
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,772 ✭✭✭Ella


    What's wrong with his house? How long have they been broken up?


  • #4
    Ellsbells
    Closed Accounts Posts: 985 ✭✭✭Ellsbells


    The big problem is that she won't listen to you. Does he have far to travel?


  • #5
    newco306
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4 ✭newco306


    Ellsbells wrote: »
    The big problem is that she won't listen to you. Does he have far to travel?

    I know. I just wish that she have listen my feelings or it will get worse.

    Its 4 hours bus travel. I would offer to bring her kid to meet her ex at half way because I have car. But no, she just rather is her ex stay over. Her ex has a lot of friends lives near me and wont stay their house.


  • #6
    newco306
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4 ✭newco306


    Ella Bella wrote: »
    What's wrong with his house? How long have they been broken up?

    He lives with his parents. It would be nice if his kid see his family like. They broken up about 3 years ago.


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  • #7
    Piliger
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,741 ✭✭✭Piliger


    newco306 wrote: »
    Is it natural that my girlfriends ex stay my girlfriends and mine house often? They have kid together. He come to stay my house for see his kid. I would be happy if his ex take his son to his home for spending time each other than stay my and gf house because I feels too uncomfortable and I have told my girlfriend about my feeling and she wont listen my feelings. I do love her a lot. What should I do about that?

    This is not that unusual and you need to handle the situation with more tact that just stand up and try to 'end it'. Else you may find yourself even more of a bad guy than the ex.

    The 'problem' here is that you, as you say, are not happy with the situation. And whichever way you communicate with your GF, she doesn't seem to have grasped how you feel or doesn't care.

    I would suggest to you that you need to step up your efforts at communicating with your GF so that you can find out which reason is the real one.

    You need to get her on her own, maybe on a night out together, or best of all out on a nice walk somewhere. Try to concentrate on the positive, tell her how you feel about the situation and on how things might be improved to help you to cope with it. As you say, the child could go to his place for periods of time instead of him coming to yours.


  • #8
    Ellsbells
    Closed Accounts Posts: 985 ✭✭✭Ellsbells


    Can the two of ye go away for a night when he is there? Use him as a babysitter? In saying that, he should be staying with friends.

    How do they get on? I think it's odd


  • #9
    newco306
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4 ✭newco306


    Ellsbells wrote: »
    Can the two of ye go away for a night when he is there? Use him as a babysitter? In saying that, he should be staying with friends.

    How do they get on? I think it's odd

    They get on very well for their kid's sake.

    Good idea, I could bring her go away sometime but we are not that rich if u know what i mean. Because I'm a part time work. I asked her ex to stay his friends house and he says no. I feels getting disrespected by him.


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