How to broach this?

LegacyUser

Hey all.

I'm in a newish relationship, about 4 months and last night we were fooling around. We haven't had penetrative sex yet but have had oral. I have given him oral loads of times and it's been grand.
Anyway, he has a fairly labour intensive job so he showers regularly. But last night when I went to go down on him, well, he stank even though I knew he'd had a shower earlier. The rest of him was clean and fresh as a daisy but there was an awful whiff of stale sweat and wee from his genitals.
That is not like him at all and I couldn't bring myself to say it but neither could I bring myself to ignore it. I ended up giving him manual stimulation but he couldn't climax and it all became very awkward and we just ended up stopping and going to sleep.
So now things are a bit strained and I'm sure he's totally baffled as to what happened. I should have said something but I just couldn't as he is the type who would have been mortified.

I'm hoping it was a one off and next time we're together he'll be as clean as he usually is and we can just get over the blip. But if he's not, what's the best way to tell him he smells down below?

kayos

smell_issue wrote: »

But if he's not, what's the best way to tell him he smells down below?

"The shower is that way... I'll get you a towel"

These things happen and to be honest best he knows than you try and play it down or circumvent the issue.

P. Breathnach

Make dealing with it into part of your love-making: take him into the shower and give him a gentle and stimulating wash in the genital area.

Colonel Panic

I don't get how you can be in a position to perform oral sex on someone and not be able to say they missed a spot when they had a shower! I would rather someone told me rather than suffer in silence or try and trick me into it with not so subtle hints!

LittleBook

smell_issue wrote: »

I have given him oral loads of times and it's been grand ... But last night when I went to go down on him, well, he stank even though I knew he'd had a shower earlier.

"Oh babe sorry, but I think you missed a spot! Would you mind freshening up please? Thanks!"

Piliger

Hi OP ... I really don't understand why you couldn't have just said it to him in a humorous way when you were down there that he missed a spot ! it happens. With women as well as men !

By not saying anything you have created something out of nothing. And the sooner you start talking about it the better. Just bring it up at a light hearted moment and say you were silly not to say something, you don't know why you didn't and it's all forgotten and hit him with a big kiss !

Lesson learnt ? talk talk talk talk ........

Best of luck !