Change of preference or one type of person?

LegacyUser

I really appreciate just keeping this one more simplified: I'm interested in a friend of mine whose last boyfriends were/have been athletic and dark skinned (1 was black, the other puerto rican), One tall the other shorter, and her older boyfriends I don't know. I on the other hand am white as hell, tall, and while I am working out a lot I have a ways to go. We've been hanging out a little bit lately, sometimes with her and her son sometimes without. I'm just at the point where I'm not sure if neither of us is really brave or ready to make a first move or if it's just not there. I won't list all the details and ask the internet to decide if from that, whether she's interested or not. I'll just have to deduce that myself! But my question that I need feedback on is based on experience how often do people find themselves sticking to dating the same typecasts, whether they be athletic, short, tall, pasty or bronzed, quiet or outgoing, etc. etc. - good to know whether it's an idea to take that shot or if it's just going to mess up a developing friendship?

Ickle Magoo

Hey moogleplex,

I don't see how knowing other peoples preferences could at all be relevant/going to help you decide whether your friend is or ever could be interested in you...it'll just be a long list of mixed views based on strangers personal preferences...

I think you have two choices, leave things as they are or bite the bullet and ask your friend out.

All the best.

a fat guy

How old is this kid?

Don't worry, I'm actually going somewhere with this one!

If she's got a kid, then perhaps her "usual tastes" haven't been interested in the baggage, hence her interest in lighter-skinned fellows like yourself.

That's me being a real pessimist though, so here's a few opinions that could actually be helpful:

-She's grown tired of flings and seen the results of them, since she is now a single mother. She's sick of that and just wants to settle down. You seem to be a nice lad, so maybe she see's you as more "serious" relationship material? You sound more serious than those other guys anyway.

-She's noticed that guys are more than just a colour. So even if she does prefer dark-skinned guys, she genuinely likes your personality.

EGAR

I don't think it's necessarily a preference? My sister dated two dark skinned guy , had a few white bf's and married a German guy...?