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Harassed, depressed, dropped out of uni.

  • 29-06-2012 6:58pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I was at uni in the uk where I was harrassed by a fellow student in the same on-campus accomodation (in my first year). It went on all through Semester 1, but stopped in Semester 2 (though I still felt uncomfortable around him) after I spoke to the uni about it. From mid-sem 1 my grades went from good (~70%) to just scraping by. This was partly due to my reaction to the situation I was in (preferring to stay in bed than get up and face the day). In semester 2 I went to the gp and got put on antidepressants, eventually I decided to suspend my course for a year or 2.

    The harrassment was mental, emotional and some sexual and really affected the person I am. (Before I was not a racist person, now being around males of his nationality make me anxious, even if they are just on tv, walking past etc.). I am seeing a phycologist about all this and have made good progress.

    The course I was in was something I have always loved (from junior infants, through to leaving cert) but my experience of the course (bad grades, etc.) had caused me to have doubt about whether or not it is for me. I really love the uni and city I was in, and would love to go back this September, but there is part of me which is telling myself that I won't be good enough.

    Sorry, this is more of a rant than anything else, would appreciate if I could have some words of wisdom about my situation.

    (Ps. apologies for my spelling!).


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  • #2
    edellc
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    Op Im so sorry to hear your first experience of uni was this, how awful of this individual to do this to you, no wonder you feel nervous around similar people thats natural.

    Its also natural to doubt yourself due to these experiences however this has been a life long dream that you have had and I think it would be such a shame for you to abandon it just because of one individual. That lets that person win and still have control over you. You have your whole life in front of you and it would be so very sad if you didnt follow you dream due to one person and their totally unacceptable behaviour.

    Yes you doubt your ability to do the course work but guess what you where doing it before, 70% thats great grades and you can do that again you just got side tracked, you know you are well capable of doing this its just about focus and putting in the hard work.

    Also I take it this low life will still be in the uni if you go back in september?? and if so then you need a plan in place should any behaviour start again, did you report this person to the uni officials, bullying is not nice and serious in itself but sexual harassment is a totally different ball game and should be not only reported to uni but to the police.

    I hope you follow your dreams OP as we all only get one life to live and it would be shame for yours to be altered and determined by one sick individual

    Peace and love OP x


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