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Together alone

nerdymam · 2012-06-24 20:35:33

Hi, I'm new to boards, I was just hoping to put something out there to see if there is anyone else who has a similar experience and possibly get some tips on how to deal with it. I am a very busy mother, I work full time, study part time, have lots of friends and hobbies and am married to a really good man. Yet I find that…

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Hi, I'm new to boards, I was just hoping to put something out there to see if there is anyone else who has a similar experience and possibly get some tips on how to deal with it. I am a very busy mother, I work full time, study part time, have lots of friends and hobbies and am married to a really good man. Yet I find that a lot of the time I feel quite lonely.

My Hubby and I have been together for 16 years and we're quite different, I enjoy socialising and trying new things and he is happy enough to come home every evening and sit in front of the TV. I almost feel like I am being ungrateful by feeling this way, I have a wonderful life and family which should be more than enough but I feel like something that I haven't yet identified is missing from it. Don't get me wrong, I'm comfortable with my own company (in fact I have it so rarely that I relish it!) but sometimes I just feel crippled with loneliness.

Do women have mid life crises? I'm only 33, I reckon I'm a bit too young for that!

Thanks in advance for the free therapy!

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#2 24-06-2012 8:37pm

john why

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Gets popcorn

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#3 24-06-2012 8:38pm

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Steak & BJ

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#4 24-06-2012 8:38pm

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Free therapy in after hours is like getting free health care on a halting site.

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#5 24-06-2012 8:39pm

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Have you talked to your husband about how you feel?

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#6 24-06-2012 8:39pm

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john why wrote: »

Gets popcorn

No one can feel lonely sharing popcorn. How thoughtful of you

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#7 24-06-2012 8:39pm

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Ha ha so I see!

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#8 24-06-2012 8:40pm

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OP you sound like you have depression.

Go to your Doctor. Read this too http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2056481009

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#9 24-06-2012 8:41pm

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When do you get time to be lonely?

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#10 24-06-2012 8:41pm

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This is probably more a Personal Issues thread OP

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=127

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#11 24-06-2012 8:41pm

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Thanks Gummypanda, In a round about way. He's good company, but emotionally he's quite closed off. He listens when I start talking about feelings, but sometimes his eyes do glaze over

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#12 24-06-2012 8:42pm

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I'd like to even pretend that I care about your problems but I can't even bring myself to that.

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#13 24-06-2012 8:43pm

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Gummy Panda wrote: »

Have you talked to your husband about how you feel?

That's a bit too simple isn't it.

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#14 24-06-2012 8:44pm

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I didn't realise that there's a personal issues thread thanks!

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#15 24-06-2012 8:44pm

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nerdymam wrote: »

Thanks Gummypanda, In a round about way. He's good company, but emotionally he's quite closed off. He listens when I start talking about feelings, but sometimes his eyes do glaze over

Most men do that - it's called selective hearing.

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#16 24-06-2012 8:45pm

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nerdymam wrote: »

Thanks Gummypanda, In a round about way. He's good company, but emotionally he's quite closed off. He listens when I start talking about feelings, but sometimes his eyes do glaze over

And? He's a man, that's how they roll.

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#17 24-06-2012 8:45pm

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Hey OP, I just came in
And this is crazy
I'm locking this
Try PI maybe?

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#18 24-06-2012 8:45pm

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nerdymam wrote: »

I didn't realise that there's a personal issues thread thanks!

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=1011

There is this one as well.

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