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gone into shell after breakup

  • 22-06-2012 12:50pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi, I went through a very painful break up a while back. It hurt like hell but after the initial shock i thought i reacted well to it. Kept busy, rekindled old friendships, etc etc. But lately, I seem to have completely gone into my own little bubble. At work i don't even make the effort to talk to people. I barely say a word when i go home either. Im fully aware im doing this, yet i don't even feel bothered to try and change it. Im still young, but for some reason this break up has affected me in such a way that i feel perfectly happy to just let life pass me by. Im not extremely outgoing, but before all this i had a great personality when i got to know people. now im barely bothered making small talk. i don't even feel depressed or anything, i just don't know how breaking up with someone can have such a profound affect as to completely wipe out my personality. advice appreciated.


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  • #2
    ascona
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9 ✭ascona


    Not sure I can offer you much advice but I am feeling exactly the same way afer a breakup aswell. Just not bothered. Feels like your just exsisting rather than living.

    I'm doing all the same stuff as you describe, keeping busy doing stuff etc. I think as the old cliche goes says time is great healer. How long that takes though is another question! It would be great if we could skip past this. But as someone said to me, you can't go over it, around it or under it. You have to face it head on.


  • #3
    _dublinlad_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 243 ✭✭_dublinlad_


    Word for word I could have written this myself.

    I can offer no words of wisdom however. With me I have good and bad days. But as time goes by, the good start to out way the bad. As the other poster said, there is no way around this. Its just one of lifes tests that most of us have to go through.


  • #4
    Macers
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 512 ✭✭✭Macers


    justnotbothered wrote: »
    Hi, I went through a very painful break up a while back. It hurt like hell but after the initial shock i thought i reacted well to it. Kept busy, rekindled old friendships, etc etc. But lately, I seem to have completely gone into my own little bubble. At work i don't even make the effort to talk to people. I barely say a word when i go home either. Im fully aware im doing this, yet i don't even feel bothered to try and change it. Im still young, but for some reason this break up has affected me in such a way that i feel perfectly happy to just let life pass me by. Im not extremely outgoing, but before all this i had a great personality when i got to know people. now im barely bothered making small talk. i don't even feel depressed or anything, i just don't know how breaking up with someone can have such a profound affect as to completely wipe out my personality. advice appreciated.

    Hi Op,

    Was there myself 2 years ago and was in a very dark place.

    Best thing I can say to do is keep yourself active - go for runs play football etc. Try not to get lazy or into a monotonous routine.

    Friends will help you get through anything. Go out with them, have a laugh, enjoy yourself and you'll slowly reemerge...


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