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Husband doesn even like me

  • 16-06-2012 4:43pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    For the past while I feel like my husband doesnt even like me.I know he loves me.He cant stand to be in the same rom as we.We dont go out, which is ok as we have a 8 month old baby.But its everything, we eat together , then he goes off and does his own thing ,while I do mine.We stopped having sex a while a go, he isnt interested.

    I have tired talking.Now Im here , another week end of been lonly.
    I dont know what to do.We have 4 children and are married 18 years?


Comments

  • #2
    cynder
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,128 ✭✭✭cynder


    The only thing you can do is talk to him, see what's going on. If he still loves you, if he does you can do things to improve you life Together. If he does not then the relationship you had is over.


    You need to talk to him and find out what the story is, what has he said when you have tried talking to him? Did he just brush you off? You really need to get to the nitty gritty. It's ok to go and do your own things too? Stress can cause loss of libido, is he stressed?


  • #3
    Elmidena
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,570 ✭✭✭Elmidena


    I'm sorry to hear this OP, and it especially can't be easy with the lack of sleep/patience you must have with a tiny tot to look after. It might be that the pressure of young children is getting to him and he is suffering from depression or stress, and he should talk to his GP. Are you financially comfortable, or is it a bit of a maths problem at times to make ends meet? He might be put off sex by the thoughts of having ANOTHER young baby in the family when he hasn't the time or patience or money to go around already. Is there a family member who could mind your kids for a weekend and you could spend some quality time with your husband, reminding each other why ye fell in love with all that time ago? If worst comes to worst, you can just head home before the weekend is out, knowing you gave it a shot anyway. Is there a possibility he could be seeing someone else, or have doubts concerning your mutual marital integrity? I hope things work out soon xx


  • #4
    December2012
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,695 ✭✭✭December2012


    You can't talk to each other, so go learn how to communicate again by talking to a relationship counsellor.

    It's worth it.


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